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I am so disappointed & need some help.

Posted by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:21 PM
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Let me first say that I adore my husband I will support him and we will make a life together no matter where we are.

But we have been on the west coast the entire duration of my husbands career, over 6 years. He came up for new orders and he put his top 3 choices on his dream sheet. I understand that they are not guaranteed. I realize that. I understand that the Marine Corps will send their Marines wherever they are needed or could be utilized. His top 2 were east coast and 3rd was to stay at the current base.  We were really really hoping for east coast for several reasons, including being closer to family. My in laws have never even met our youngest daughter.

Well, he ended up getting Hawaii. Sounds awesome, right? Yeah not so much. My oldest daughter is not his bio child. And even though the custody order says there shall be no restrictions on me to move with her, I still do not want to deal with the headache of having to deal with the drama that I am sure will ensue. My kids are also not vaccinated (this is not a matter of debate. I do not care what you do with your kids. You do what you feel is best for your family, and I will do the same with mine. I respect everyone's right to choose what they feel is best). I also homeschool my oldest who will be in 1st grade when we move. Furthermore I am concerned about everything that goes in to a TMO move, getting base housing, meeting new people for my kids and I, etc etc.

So, now that you have got that far, can anyone give me any insight on what I need to do to prepare my family for this? Also, does Lincoln Military Housing work in Hawaii? Are they on a baseline for utilities? Does my husband qualify for COLA? Anyone know how long the housing wait list is for E5 with 3 dependents and a dog? Oh, thats another thing, we have a dog. How do we travel with a dog? HELP please!

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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:24 PM
Sometimes dread and complaining is 90% of the game.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:41 PM

what does you homeschooling your kid have anything to do with moving?

the vaccinations, again what does that have anything to do with your move?

your moving to hawaii, suck it up and get over it

Mrs.Miller11
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:45 PM
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Wow, your lack of reading comprehension is astounding.

They are relevant because every state is different in terms of vaccine laws and home school laws.

And in case you missed it, there were at least 4 other questions I asked that you conveniently did not answer or even reference.

But thanks ever so much for your "help"

Quoting Anonymous:

what does you homeschooling your kid have anything to do with moving?

the vaccinations, again what does that have anything to do with your move?

your moving to hawaii, suck it up and get over it


Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:49 PM

oh i read it just fine, I have nothing to offer for your other questions, I was just curious how those two things have anything to do with moving, you can home school your child just like you are now, and still get a waiver for the vaccinations,  which I sure you have now.. pretty common sense 

Quoting Mrs.Miller11:

Wow, your lack of reading comprehension is astounding.

They are relevant because every state is different in terms of vaccine laws and home school laws.

And in case you missed it, there were at least 4 other questions I asked that you conveniently did not answer or even reference.

But thanks ever so much for your "help"

Quoting Anonymous:

what does you homeschooling your kid have anything to do with moving?

the vaccinations, again what does that have anything to do with your move?

your moving to hawaii, suck it up and get over it



KelissaMaye
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:49 PM

I'm in Hawaii. I fucking hate it. I would kill to go back to Fort Drum.
BUT, since I am here, I will make the best of it, because it's 90% attitude, and  only 10% where you are.
YES you husband qualifies for COLA. I don't know anyone who doesnt. We get like $700 a month in COLA, and it's just dh and I for now. I don't know about traveling here with the dog, or about Marine housing (since we're army), but I know that you can go here and look. http://hawaii.gov/hdoa/ai/aqs/info
There are phone numbers and email contacts as well.
GL. 

Mrs.Miller11
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:50 PM

thank you very much


Quoting KelissaMaye:

I'm in Hawaii. I fucking hate it. I would kill to go back to Fort Drum.
BUT, since I am here, I will make the best of it, because it's 90% attitude, and  only 10% where you are.
YES you husband qualifies for COLA. I don't know anyone who doesnt. We get like $700 a month in COLA, and it's just dh and I for now. I don't know about traveling here with the dog, or about Marine housing (since we're army), but I know that you can go here and look. http://hawaii.gov/hdoa/ai/aqs/info
There are phone numbers and email contacts as well.
GL. 


ReadWriteLuv
by Bronze Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:53 PM
I completely know what you are going through. We just got screwed and are getting sent somewhere we don't want to go as well. Good luck to you.
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KelissaMaye
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:56 PM

You're welcome.
Any questions that you have about housing can probably be answered here. http://www.fcmarineshawaii.com/

I can tell you that my husband is at ft shafter, and our wait for army housing was 6 months...luckily, we got in on Hickam within a week. I don't know how Marine housing wait list is looking.
Oh, and if you have facebook, this page is pretty helpful.  http://www.facebook.com/HawaiiMilitaryWivesSupportGroup?fref=ts

Quoting Mrs.Miller11:

thank you very much


Quoting KelissaMaye:

I'm in Hawaii. I fucking hate it. I would kill to go back to Fort Drum.
BUT, since I am here, I will make the best of it, because it's 90% attitude, and  only 10% where you are.
YES you husband qualifies for COLA. I don't know anyone who doesnt. We get like $700 a month in COLA, and it's just dh and I for now. I don't know about traveling here with the dog, or about Marine housing (since we're army), but I know that you can go here and look. http://hawaii.gov/hdoa/ai/aqs/info
There are phone numbers and email contacts as well.
GL. 



Anonymous
by Anonymous on Nov. 15, 2012 at 7:02 PM
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Hawai'i Administrative Rules, Chapter 12, "Compulsory Attendance Exceptions": http://lilinote.k12.hi.us/PUBLIC/ADMINR1.NSF/85255a0a0010ae82852555340060479d/a49d572fb0811e390a25675a00750641?OpenDocument

Hawai'i Vaccination Exemption Information: http://www.vaclib.org/exempt/hawaii.htm

Military Options for Travelling with Pets: http://www.military.com/money/pcs-dity-move/transporting-pets-military-options.html 

Information on COLA: http://www.military.com/benefits/military-pay/allowances/cost-of-living-allowance-cola.html

I don't know about utilities & housing, but the above info should be helpful to you. 

Apollos82
by Cassie on Nov. 15, 2012 at 7:08 PM
There is a group here called military moves to Hawaii or something like that. I hope they can help.

The dog thing will actually be the longest process...make sure he is up to date on ALL shots. If he's not, make an appointment and get that done NOW. The islands are pretty stingy about rabies, especially. There has to be a certain time frame between when the animal ha it's last booster and when it can be released from quarantine. And yeah, all animals MUST go to quarantine.
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