So my husband and I have been on/off since 2004 and finally tied the knot in 2010. We got married and he had already recieved orders to be on unaccompanied orders to Okinawa for 2 yrs. We had tried several times to change his orders and extend his stay so I could be with him, but they kept denying it because of medical problems (I have MS) So we have spent the majority or our marriage thousands of mile apart. He recieved his orders for Cherry Point and got on base housing for us and our son. Since we have all been together things have just been....akward...We used to talk and play and have a good time, now it seems he is really withdrawn and he doesn't want to hang out with me. I grew up in a military family and witnessed the same thing between my parents every time my dad would come back from a deployement. They have always worked things out, but I don't know if my husband even wants things to work out for us. Before I moved here he agreed to see an on base councelor to help us communicate better, but now he insists it wont help him and he doesn't want to go. I am still concidering going so I can have somebody to talk to about what's going on. He has said he doesn't talk much to anybody and that's just how he is now, but he has a "friend" he met in Okinawa that he talks to on a regular basis, and yes she is a female, and also higher rank than him. I totally understand that they are friends and all, but it just kind of makes me feel...less important. He is still an excellent father, and is so helpful with our son, I just feel so left out of his world and I don't know what to do to make things better. I am hoping just being here, and ready to talk will be enough, but the lonliness is getting unbareable. Any suggestions?
Posted by Anonymous on Dec. 1, 2012 at 10:32 AM