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Soldier's wife put their baby up for adoption without his knowledge

Posted by on Dec. 8, 2012 at 4:41 PM
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What is wrong with people??

A South Carolina man whose wife put their baby up for adoption without his knowledge or consent will be reunited with his daughter after a nearly two-year legal battle, a Utah court ruled.

A Provo judge said Monday he was “astonished and deeply troubled" by an adoption agency’s deliberate efforts to circumvent the legal rights of father Terry Achane, who was serving as an Army drill instructor when his child was adopted without his knowledge.

Judge Darold McDade gave the adoption agency and the adoptive parents, Jared and Kristi Frei, 60 days to return Achane’s daughter, Teleah, now 21 months old.

The Frei family and their attorneys have declined to comment publicly, but on a blog where the family has sought help paying legal bills, they vowed to appeal the ruling.

They called the adoption "a righteous desire blessed to fruition by God....”there has never been any question to us that she is OURS!!!”

But Achane, who is trying to put the ordeal behind him and ready for a future with his daughter, implored the family to drop new legal action.

“If they prolong it, that is more time away from my daughter,” Achane told The Salt Lake City Tribune.

“There are precious moments I can’t get back. ... There is no court order saying they have the right to my child. I just won the case. I want to get my daughter and raise my daughter,” he said.

Achane was legally married to his Teleah’s mother, Tira Bland, when she became pregnant. Bland and her biological daughter from a previous relationship were covered by Achane’s insurance and the family resided together in Texas.

Achane maintained he was happy about the pregnancy and he took a job as a drill instructor in South Carolina, believing the family would relocate together. Just before he was to report for duty in February of 2011, the couple started having marital problems.

Bland suggested the possibility of abortion or adoption, but Achane objected to both options, according to court documents.

Bland decided to stay behind in Texas for the final four months of her pregnancy, and Achane described a series of communication gaps with his estranged wife. Even still, he expected to be there for the birth.

"I had already gotten clearance to come back when the baby was on the way," he told the Tribune.

By the late spring of 2011, unable to get an answer on the fate of his child from either Bland or her friends, he reached out to his wife’s doctors in Texas, the Tribune reported. He was told doctor-patient confidentiality prevented the disclosure of any information.

Finally, In June 2011, Bland admitted to Achane she had given their newborn to Adoption Center of Choice in Utah.

"I was like, ‘Utah? Where is Utah?’ I’d never been to Utah, she’s never been to Utah," he told the Tribune.

"Adoption? Who does that? ... I believe she felt guilty at that point because she just made a call out of the blue," said Achane.

The Daily News could not immediately locate Bland for comment.

Soon after learning his daughter had been taken to Utah, Achane began reaching out to the Adoption Center of Choice, who refused to give any information.

In the Frei’s adoption petition the couple acknowledged Achane was married to Bland and that he had never consented to the adoption. Court documents reveal they had asked his parental rights be severed because the U.S. military member "abandoned the natural mother during her pregnancy.”

A representative for the Adoption Center of Choice testified that it was "standard practice" to not provide any information when a father of a prospective adoptive child called the agency.

The Adoption Center of Choice did not immediately respond to the Daily News’ request for comment.

The judge ruled the agency knowingly and deliberately ignored Achane’s parental rights.

“The right of a fit, competent parent to raise the parent’s child without undue government interference is a fundamental liberty interest that has long been protected by the laws and constitution of this state of the United States, and is a fundamental public policy of this state," he said.

Achane’s attorney saw the events as a crime.

“This is a case of human trafficking," lawyer Mark Wiser told the Tribune.

"Children are being bought and sold. It is one thing what [adoption agencies] have been doing with unmarried biological fathers. It is in a new area when they are trying to take a child away from a married father who wants to have his child,” he said.

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usmclife58
by Nikki on Dec. 8, 2012 at 4:45 PM
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I have been so upset by this. The adoptive parents are just as evil and cruel as the "mother". I want to scream at them to stop talking about God - He would not condone their behavior! Seriously, I just want to punch them. And her. And everyone at the adoption agency.

chrlstoncharmed
by Melissa on Dec. 8, 2012 at 4:47 PM

I'm with you!

Quoting usmclife58:

I have been so upset by this. The adoptive parents are just as evil and cruel as the "mother". I want to scream at them to stop talking about God - He would not condone their behavior! Seriously, I just want to punch them. And her. And everyone at the adoption agency.


KelissaMaye
by on Dec. 8, 2012 at 4:48 PM
I second this.

Quoting usmclife58:

I have been so upset by this. The adoptive parents are just as evil and cruel as the "mother". I want to scream at them to stop talking about God - He would not condone their behavior! Seriously, I just want to punch them. And her. And everyone at the adoption agency.

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adoptivemomof1
by Mel on Dec. 8, 2012 at 4:56 PM

I agree! The moment that they discovered that the child's father wanted to raise her that shuld have been it.  Instead they dragged it through the courts for years and that was just as cruel as what the "mother" did in the first place. I think that agency is the one that did that awful show Birth Mothers so they are pretty sleazy and I believe this is not the only case that they pulled this crap with birth fathers on...It is reprehensible!

Quoting usmclife58:

I have been so upset by this. The adoptive parents are just as evil and cruel as the "mother". I want to scream at them to stop talking about God - He would not condone their behavior! Seriously, I just want to punch them. And her. And everyone at the adoption agency.


mom2jessnky
by Dedi on Dec. 8, 2012 at 5:05 PM

I'm with you.

Quoting usmclife58:

I have been so upset by this. The adoptive parents are just as evil and cruel as the "mother". I want to scream at them to stop talking about God - He would not condone their behavior! Seriously, I just want to punch them. And her. And everyone at the adoption agency.


violinjewel
by Julia on Dec. 8, 2012 at 5:14 PM
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This! It's disgusting to me that they are using God in their "reasoning."


Quoting usmclife58:

I have been so upset by this. The adoptive parents are just as evil and cruel as the "mother". I want to scream at them to stop talking about God - He would not condone their behavior! Seriously, I just want to punch them. And her. And everyone at the adoption agency.


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adrianna1043
by Adrianna on Dec. 8, 2012 at 5:34 PM
Yep

Quoting usmclife58:

I have been so upset by this. The adoptive parents are just as evil and cruel as the "mother". I want to scream at them to stop talking about God - He would not condone their behavior! Seriously, I just want to punch them. And her. And everyone at the adoption agency.

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usmclife58
by Nikki on Dec. 8, 2012 at 5:45 PM

Here is another story very similar to the soldier's story, same agency.

http://www.babyselling.com/

4ever-SJ
by Gold Member on Dec. 8, 2012 at 5:50 PM
What Nikki said. This is horrible.
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lizzielouaf
by Bronze Member on Dec. 8, 2012 at 5:55 PM
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I really hate it when people do horrible things and use god as a justification.
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