Hi! My husband is an active duty in airforce he is currently stationed at Osan, AB he just left last Thursday December 6th 2012. We are married for 14 years, we have 2 boys (11 and 3) my husband and I are having issues about infedelity. It started in year 2000 while I was still in another country. I discovered his affair when I got here in the US in 2006, I gave him another cahnce thinking that he will stop and change because I am already here. But I was wrong, he broke up with the girl. I didnt know that he has a lot of reserves...It's like one after the other... I did everything to make our marriage work. He doesn't want to hold on to what I am fighting for. He is still doing it. Actually they are together now in Osan, AB. Their having an affair for a really long time now. Before he left I gave him separation paper (not filed) but he said no, he is so selfish that he wants to keep me and that girl! I want to get out of our messy marriage life and set him free! I can't trust him anymore. I had given my all. My pride and dignity...It's useless because he don't have conscience.
How do I file for legal separation? Do I need a lawyer? What can I do if my husband don't want separation, Can I still file it? I don't have work, can I make husband pay for all the fees?