I feel like it is long overdue in here. I understand a lot of the wives are young and on your own for the first time, but you can't stop your life. You keep going for yourself, your children and your dh. I don't care if he is at BCT, deployed or in Korea. Pick yourself up and carry on. He wouldn't want to think you are home, sitting on the couch and crying all the time.
Many of us have been there. I was pregnant with my 3rd when my dh went to basic and I was living 700 miles from any family. I had our son on my own when he was at AIT. We went to our first duty station for a year and then he went to Korea for a year (left while I was pregnant again). And, 12 years later, we have been through that and 5 deployments with another in the near future.
I'm not trying to be mean. I remember how hard it was, but you can do it. You will realize how strong you are. Just wait until it is one of your children at Basic, that is so much harder. My oldest graduates on Friday.