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a youth center employee hurt my kid

Anonymous
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Last night at soccer practice. They all were goofing around and my son for some reason kept hitting the coach. He told my son to stop several times but he didn't and I guess when my son went to hit the coach in the groin the coach grabbed my sons wrist and put him ina wrist lock and said I told you to stop.

I wasn't there at that point. I had to go get my dd from her track meet. I do know they all were playing around before I left.

When my son told me, I got on him about hitting the coach and told him that its definetly not OK to hit especially when someone tells you to stop. He got punished for going to peg the coach in the balls

However, I really want to say something to this coach about putting my son in a wrist lock. That wasn't OK either.

My son is 10 hand knows better but so does a 29 year old man.

Posted by Anonymous on Mar. 8, 2013 at 9:53 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2013 at 9:55 AM
My son said it hurt his wrist at the time and he showed me how it was done. Definitely not OK. He basically turned his wrist in a direction it wasn't suppose to bend.
jas_momof2
by アニメの雌犬 on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:14 AM

So call the director...

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:19 AM
I want to talk to him first.


Quoting jas_momof2:

So call the director...


.oOMellyOo.
by Silver Member on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:22 AM

What did you want to coach to do? No judgement, just a question.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:23 AM

although i dont think the adult should have laid hands on your son , what do you think he should of done with your son continually hitting him even after being asked to  stopped repeatedly?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:23 AM
Is he actually an employee or a volunteer?



I think he was just "disarming" your son, kind of like blocking. Your son was going to hit him in the balls. If the man is trained in how to defend himself, his natural instincts are going to take over. I know your son is punished but I would be appalled at that behavior. I assumed while reading along that your son was in high school, which would still be unacceptable to me but more understandable because of the age but 10? I don't have sons but I hope this isn't how boys generally behave.



If the man used excessive force in your opinion, you should for sure call his boss but a lot of coaches are volunteers and I don't know if that matters.
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by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:25 AM
Not put him in a wrist lock. That could have injured my son's wrist.

I think it was a inappropriate response.

My son wad in the wrong, reason why I'm not going to the director.

But, I do think he needs to know it was not something I approved of as discipline.


Quoting .oOMellyOo.:

What did you want to coach to do? No judgement, just a question.


Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:26 AM

she was asking what would you have rather him do.


Quoting Anonymous:

Not put him in a wrist lock. That could have injured my son's wrist.

I think it was a inappropriate response.

My son wad in the wrong, reason why I'm not going to the director.

But, I do think he needs to know it was not something I approved of as discipline.


Quoting .oOMellyOo.:

What did you want to coach to do? No judgement, just a question.




Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:27 AM
His coach is not an employee but the center is still over the program.

I am appalled at my son's behavior and he is being punished.


Quoting Anonymous:

Is he actually an employee or a volunteer?





I think he was just "disarming" your son, kind of like blocking. Your son was going to hit him in the balls. If the man is trained in how to defend himself, his natural instincts are going to take over. I know your son is punished but I would be appalled at that behavior. I assumed while reading along that your son was in high school, which would still be unacceptable to me but more understandable because of the age but 10? I don't have sons but I hope this isn't how boys generally behave.





If the man used excessive force in your opinion, you should for sure call his boss but a lot of coaches are volunteers and I don't know if that matters.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:28 AM
Anything, except potentially hurting my kid.


Quoting Anonymous:

she was asking what would you have rather him do.



Quoting Anonymous:

Not put him in a wrist lock. That could have injured my son's wrist.



I think it was a inappropriate response.



My son wad in the wrong, reason why I'm not going to the director.



But, I do think he needs to know it was not something I approved of as discipline.





Quoting .oOMellyOo.:

What did you want to coach to do? No judgement, just a question.







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