Quoting soonergirl980:
I would not put up with that especially from someone I was only dating.
Quoting Distance-lover:
He's been in for 7 yrs and has deployed several times. Sometimes when we talk he is stressed bc of issues at work and always seems to et short or snappy with me.
My husband is in the Army has been for 11 years with multiple tours down range, field work, and all kinds of bs. He still manages to treat me with love and respect. I committed a long time ago it is not an excuse to be treated like that all the time. Sure every once in awhile we all get bitchy but we reconginize it and apoloigize. It should never be the norm if that was norm while I was dating I would move on.
Quoting kiermac1:
Once again he's in the army... you can't imagine what he does on a daily baises... so when he snaps, try and make it better or let him go to calm down so you don't argue more! Army men can argue way better than anyone, and then never back down from an arguement.. he's been in 7 years, tell me how would your mood be after deployments, field work, and just straight bs that most people don't deal with ever? Your mood would be snappy and kinda stressed to. If you can't handle the army life get out now, before you commit to it.
Quoting soonergirl980:
I would not put up with that especially from someone I was only dating.
Quoting Distance-lover:
He's been in for 7 yrs and has deployed several times. Sometimes when we talk he is stressed bc of issues at work and always seems to et short or snappy with me.
Quoting soonergirl980:My husband is in the Army has been for 11 years with multiple tours down range, field work, and all kinds of bs. He still manages to treat me with love and respect. I committed a long time ago it is not an excuse to be treated like that all the time. Sure every once in awhile we all get bitchy but we reconginize it and apoloigize. It should never be the norm if that was norm while I was dating I would move on.
Quoting kiermac1:
Once again he's in the army... you can't imagine what he does on a daily baises... so when he snaps, try and make it better or let him go to calm down so you don't argue more! Army men can argue way better than anyone, and then never back down from an arguement.. he's been in 7 years, tell me how would your mood be after deployments, field work, and just straight bs that most people don't deal with ever? Your mood would be snappy and kinda stressed to. If you can't handle the army life get out now, before you commit to it.
Quoting soonergirl980:
I would not put up with that especially from someone I was only dating.
Quoting Distance-lover:
He's been in for 7 yrs and has deployed several times. Sometimes when we talk he is stressed bc of issues at work and always seems to et short or snappy with me.
This. Exactly. She took the words out of my mouth. Hugs OP!
Quoting MrsMalsam:
Lol this absolutely cracked me up.
OP- it just comes with the territory. You'll learn what works for you and what doesn't. Sometimes stress from work just needs to be left at the door. When my Dh has a tough day, he doesn't want to talk about it when he gets home. He cools off on his 20 min drive home and the rest of the evening is ours. If its really bad, sometimes he will mention it just so I know what he's facing, but that's about it.
From your side, don't pry. Don't beg to know what's happening. Don't be surprised if you don't understand. Just support him and give him time to cool off if he's had a really bad day.
When he walks in the door, don't just badger him about the events in your day. Ease into it and don't bombard him. He just walked in the door.
Quoting Anonymous:well, first of all when Dying a military man, you must let soak for 20 hours in whatever color you want them, wring out to dry and beat with a broom till all wrinkles are out.
Too funny!
oP, I don't have any good advice. I just thought this response was cute :).
Quoting Anonymous:well, first of all when Dying a military man, you must let soak for 20 hours in whatever color you want them, wring out to dry and beat with a broom till all wrinkles are out.
From one obscure base to another :)
- Distance-lover
on Mar. 18, 2013 at 4:21 PM