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What is your take on this.

Posted by on May. 24, 2013 at 2:32 PM
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A friend of mine (non military) posted a link to Memorial Day sales on her facebook then talked about plans for a barbeque she was having on Memorial Day. Another friend of mine who is military, responded by saying she was tired of having everyone forget the meaning behind MM and "since when is a soldiers sacrifice all about brisket and 20% off of sheets". That in turned sparked a bit of a debate about lack of respect for 'those who laid down their lives, so you can enjoy a discount on dinner". 

Being military, I obviously appreciate and am thankful for all our armed forces do, but I also don't think it is disrespectful to enjoy a long weekend.

by on May. 24, 2013 at 2:32 PM
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Katkinson
by on May. 24, 2013 at 4:08 PM
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Well, it's like Christmas. . . people are all about the "buy, buy, buy" but that's not really what the holiday is about. . .commercialism of holidays can sometimes be a person's pet peeve, and it won't bother others. 

I personally think it's disgusting how holidays get warped and twisted out of their original purpose and meaning, but I don't necessarily go spouting off on facebook about it.  If your friend truly feels offended, then maybe SHE should do something with HER family that honors the day.  Volunteer at a VFW? help plant flags in the cemetary? bake thank you cookies and drop them off to the VFW!!  DOnate money!  Anything!!

Quite honestly, the lecturer is wrong.  her viewpoint may be right, but her actions are wrong.  She's not in control of how people choose to celebrate this holiday, she's only in control of herself. . .my question to her would be what she plans on doing to honor this holiday properly if BBQ's and shopping are  a faux paux?

As for me?  I will be in the memorial day parade with many other girl scouts from our community.  I will stand up and put my hand over my heart when the flag passes by us ( if we're not in motion by then), and I will say "thank you" to the VFW for taking on the organizaiton of the festivities.  I will attend the memorial service, then I will promptly return home to party and BBQ!!! 

We can celebrate.  This is not a day to be sad, this is a day to remember and honor those who died for our liberties.  It is a day to be proud. . .we CAN have parties and gather in groups and speak freely in part because of THESE MEN AND WOMEN!  Why would we refrain from doing so on the day that honors their sacrifice?

Just my opinion!

 

sahmw2010
by on May. 24, 2013 at 7:12 PM
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We are getting together with some of the guys in my hubbys unit and my friends an their hubbies and having a bbq. Yes we remember the fallen, one of which was a very close friend and saved my hubbys life a number of times over seas. But he would not want us to sit inside and do nothing, and im sure the others would say the same if they could
TonyaLea
by Silver Member on May. 25, 2013 at 2:56 AM

Kinda cheesy, but I saw an American Greeting ecard today that I think put it well.  It showed images of various "typical" memorial day activities like families at BBQs, graduations,  football games, and camping trips in beautiful places, with flag superimposed in the background.  At the end it said "Remember what they were fighting for, as we remember them...and give thanks"

http://www.americangreetings.com/ecards/memorial-day/as-we-remember-ecard/pn/3136990

anchorgurl
by Silver Member on May. 25, 2013 at 5:52 AM

I think this is going to be a somewhat generational issue, as well as a "family background" thing.  If you have/had a family member who served, and particularly if s/he was injured or lost life, then it is one kind of holiday.  If you grew up during peace times, and don't have anyone who served among your family and friends, then it really is a Hallmark kind of holiday.  I'm kind of an "each to his or her own" person and say celebrate the day however you want.

jas_momof2
by アニメの雌犬 on May. 25, 2013 at 6:58 AM

She is entitled to feel as she does.  Some people are like that.

violinjewel
by Julia on May. 25, 2013 at 11:15 AM
This is exactly what I was going to say.


Quoting anchorgurl:

I think this is going to be a somewhat generational issue, as well as a "family background" thing.  If you have/had a family member who served, and particularly if s/he was injured or lost life, then it is one kind of holiday.  If you grew up during peace times, and don't have anyone who served among your family and friends, then it really is a Hallmark kind of holiday.  I'm kind of an "each to his or her own" person and say celebrate the day however you want.


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cocoroo
by on May. 25, 2013 at 2:11 PM
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It isn't my place to tell others how to celebrate anything.

Apollos82
by on May. 25, 2013 at 4:31 PM

I think it gets out of hand, with the sales and such... I saw a k-mart ad the other day "Where Memorial Day Begins." It pissed me off. 

TishHughes
by on May. 26, 2013 at 12:07 PM
I don't give a rats butt! Celebrate however you want. I don't have the sense of entitlement that people have to recognize our sacrifices. Not every will and not everyone has to. And this is coming from an OIF/OEF veteran, the child if a Vietnam vet and the sister of an OIF I vet and desert storm vet. 3 men before me stepped onto the battle fields before I took that flight.

Celebrate however you please.
SlapItHigh
by on May. 28, 2013 at 4:44 PM

I lost a close family member in the war but it doesn't really bother me if people have bbqs or take advantage of sales.

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