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My husband cheated on me

Anonymous
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 During his last overseas tour, my husband contracted herpes-2. He claims he was under the influence and the woman took "unfair" advantage of him.

I don't know if I'm more upset that he wasn't capable of controlling the situation, or the fact he had unprotected sex with a stranger and then with me. I feel robbed, not only of my trust and the sanctity of our marriage, but also of my dignity, my self-image and my future.

I have decided to stay in this marriage. How could anyone else love me if he knew? I have grilled my husband with accusations and questions. How can we put this behind us and have a happy marriage again? Every time I have an outbreak, I'm reminded of what he did to us. Now, because I loved and trusted my husband, I must live with this for the rest of my life. Can you help me to heal my heart -- or should I just leave?

Posted by Anonymous on Aug. 12, 2013 at 10:43 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 12, 2013 at 10:49 AM
I honestly wouldn't stay....
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 12, 2013 at 10:51 AM
Id leave sorry
bahamamama61
by Member on Aug. 12, 2013 at 10:59 AM
I would leave
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katlynfish
by on Aug. 12, 2013 at 10:59 AM
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I am not sure what I would do, other than Pray  about the situation, I am offering ((BIG)) hugs to you, and a shoulder and an ear if you should ever need it, I am sorry Mama I know this has to hurt badly. hugging

jas_momof2
by アニメの雌犬 on Aug. 12, 2013 at 11:01 AM
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If you both are committed to make it work - counseling for both of you and time for yourself.  While the trust was taken away in an instant, it's going to take a long time for him to build it and for you to deal with it.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Aug. 12, 2013 at 11:07 AM

pray, get into counseling, have to really figure out how to forgive.. :( I know it is easier said than done. 

BellaRose17
by Bronze Member on Aug. 12, 2013 at 11:09 AM

Oh my God :( I'm so sorry. I have no idea what I would do.

Perfect.Pixie
by Member on Aug. 12, 2013 at 11:10 AM
Therapy and open communication. Don't keep things in, it will only cause a snowball effect.
sleepy_in_va
by Silver Member on Aug. 12, 2013 at 11:38 AM
i agree with this whole heartedly!

Quoting jas_momof2:

If you both are committed to make it work - counseling for both of you and time for yourself.  While the trust was taken away in an instant, it's going to take a long time for him to build it and for you to deal with it.

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Mrs.Brugger
by Tiara on Aug. 12, 2013 at 11:42 AM

I really wish I had some advice. *hugs*  i'm so sorry =[

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