My ex is Navy, he lives in Norfolk while our daughter and I live in Florida. He used to be really great at keeping in contact and taking leave, checking on her, Ect. Now things have drastically changed. His last few leave attempts haven't been approved so he's now going on eight months not seeing our daughter and his calls hardly ever happen, we have to be the one to call him. He's distancing himself from her it feels like. He and I have always had a great friendship, best friends, even after the break up but now I feel like hes changing. He usually tells me everything even who his latest interest is but I feel like he's pulling away from us both. Our daughter goes nights crying because he's not around, she makes up bed time stories where we are a happy family once again and it kills me. How do I get him to see he's missing precious years of her life by not even bothering to contact us? That he can't get this time back. I sent him an email this week of her swimming without floaties for the first time and he hasn't even bothered to tell her he's proud of her. Are we better without him in our lives? I know I'll miss him terribly but I fear for my daughter not having him around if I just decide to give up putting fourth effort on making him a part of her life. He doesn't send her cards, letters or even gifts for holidays. He no longer asks me for pictures of her. Is he trying to get away and I'm just refusing to admit it to myself? How do I get him interested in being involved in her life again? He tells me he cries some nights while he's away from us and I believe him so why is he acting this way? I know he loves her. Also, he's dating a woman that has two children. What do i tell our daughter? She's four she won't understand he loves her even if he's taking care of another woman's children. The relationship hasn't been going on long and I don't know much but he told me she asked him to not talk about her to me and that she'd like to meet our daughter. Is this possibly her doing? Again, how do I get him to be involved with our daughter? Sorry so long :-/ Any advice/tips would be appreciated!!!