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Speaking of having a plan...

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Do you think your DH will retire at 20 years or stay in longer?  (Obviously for those service members who do plan to retire and not get out.)  Do they have goals for their career path?  Staying until x amount of years?  Retiring at a certain rank?  Or do they really care?  

by on Sep. 14, 2013 at 6:18 AM
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by Anonymous 2 on Sep. 16, 2013 at 2:25 PM


this goes to show how things can change so drastically. one day your planning for a 20+ year retirement, and the next you realize your career will be cut short. it's a bit of a mind f*ck. sorry you are going through this. the uncertainty can make for a very scary time.

Quoting carakitty:

DH is being medically retired (as an AF Tech Sgt), after 15 years active duty. Neither of us are happy about how this health situation is turning out or the way people in his unit are treating him. He has Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia as a result of his deployments to the Gulf War. Right now he's going into work part time, about 8 hours a week. The rest of the time he's drifting in and out of sleep on the recliner in the living room because he usually hurts too much to do anything else.

We don't really have a plan. He still has a very strong desire to work but his body simply will not let him do so to the point where a company would hire him. That causes him much frustration. We are only in our mid-30's but his health is like someone in a retirement home. It looks like his retirement money will be enough for us to still live comfortably without me getting a job but I want to anyway so we have extra money to help out with stuff. I'd love to hire a gardener to come by once a week or every other week, and I'd love to have a housekeeper come in once a month to help me get the deep cleaning done.

DH loves his aquariums. We've talked about selling live corals, live food, and breeding fish to sell.  This would be something that he could reasonably do because he could take small, frequent breaks when he needs to and figuring out the logistics of the fish care keeps his brain sharp.

I am trying to get my own pet care business started up, and right now I'm feeling frustrated with my two clients. I'm not really seeing the fruits of my labors yet and even though I started on this just one month ago I already feel like giving up.

I'm also applying to several retail jobs but I'm not hearing anything back from them. It is getting to be pretty stressful. Sure, we're getting by OK but we don't have true financial security right now. We've had to take out a loan from the bank, borrow money from my parents, and get on a deferred payment plan from the school I used to go to but we're still paying off the tuition from it (I practically hate that school now, don't get me started on them!).

Things are turning out so different than how we thought they would!  Just a couple years ago we were thinking that DH would stay Active Duty the full 20 years and then get hired as a contractor at his AF job or out at Raytheon or Lockheed Martin or something. We were looking at having quite the comfortable lifestyle coming to us.


by on Sep. 17, 2013 at 1:46 AM

Thank you for the encouraging words!

by Darby on Sep. 17, 2013 at 5:48 AM

Big hugs mama!  I'm sorry things are rough right your husband getting treatment from a doctor?  Is he on pain meds?

Quoting carakitty:

Thank you for the encouraging words!

by on Sep. 17, 2013 at 11:27 AM
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Thanks for the hugs! Yes, DH is getting treatment. He has a whole team of Docs working with him to get better relief. Conditions such as these are extremely tricky to treat effectively. We're all doing our best, though.

I have a job interview tomorrow, so that is really brightening things up on certain levels! I really hope I land this job.

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