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Any alt/punk/goth military mommas?

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I'm hoping to meet some awesome alt military moms. Post pics, ladies :)
by on Sep. 14, 2013 at 3:23 PM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Sep. 15, 2013 at 1:59 PM

 

I did, i fixed it and elaborated. . . sorry!!!

Quoting jas_momof2:

I'm not?  I think you meant to quote the op?

Quoting Anonymous:

Don't get all defensive. You cannot deny what I said is true. As far as telling your kids to do what makes them happy.... Go for it. But I'd personally draw the line with something that would negatively impact a loved one, though. Does it not seem that doing what makes YOU happy is a little egotistical? Especially considering the potential effects in regards to your kids.

In a perfect world, the opinions of others would not factor into a child's self image. We all know what reality is.

If I offended you, I apologize. I was merely pointing out reasons why I choose to keep a "normal" appearance.




Quoting jas_momof2:

There's a difference between being yourself and being an in your face annoyance.  I give you 10 years before you start to see the difference.




 

soonergirl980
by Member on Sep. 15, 2013 at 2:01 PM

I have tattoos and used to have piercings but now only my ears. I grew out the weird color of hair crazy crap once I became an adult.

DvlDogWfe
by Stella on Sep. 15, 2013 at 2:10 PM
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 Hahaha, you don't think you "conform"? What a little walking contradiction you are! :) You yourself post about searching for others JUST LIKE YOU, and you preach about NOT conforming? You are searching for others that look just like you, yet your being an individual? Come on!  Wow...


Quoting BubbyAndShmee:

That was approximately the most sanctimonious drivel I've read in years. At least anon was straight up about it. The insinuation that I don't care about my child/ren's well-being is frankly silly. You plainly state within your argument that you value acceptance over substance, which is laughable. Personally, I plan to tech my child/ren that happiness is far more important than conformity. If something puts a smile on their face, it's worth doing.


Quoting Anonymous:

 Interesting post!  Here are my thoughts about the whole "alternative" thing. 


I dress with my own style, I have unique hair, and very different jewelry ( all vintage)  than what the average person would wear. However, no matter how I dress with the clothing in my closet, I could walk down the street any day of the week and be considered a "normal" person. 


I think everyone has their own, individual style.  Pretty much everyone on here is an individual, not a carbon copy of the other.  Just because your differences are not only immediately noticeable but also attention grabbing, doesn't mean those of use who are considered "within" social conventions are less of an individual than you are.  Sometimes I feel that people who dress/alter themselves  in such an extreme manner are just grasping for a unique definition of "self".  To be different. . and that's fine.  But there are MANY MANY ways to express individuality.  Your outward appearance is quite honestly the most cosmetic, easily transformable  thing you can do to define your "sense of self". 


On a day to day basis, I would fit in well in a crowd.  Is that what I was going for?  No. .. but I will wear what I like.  This happens to be what I like.  There is also ANOTHER FACTOR, which I will get into later.  .. 


As far as "dressing appropriately" it's not about appropriate attire, it's about an appropriate ( ie accptable to others) overall appearance.  And quite honestly, if you do NOThave this,  you will offend the more conservative folk.  They will avoid play dates with your kids, neighbors will be leery about you supervising their children, they will not socialize with you, they will not give you a chance. They will view you as an immature person. 


I'm sorry, but it is what it is. Now for the second reason why I choose to have an outward appearance that is widely socially acceptable:    If  I felt the need to have rainbow hair and holes all over my head, I would have to weigh that CHOICE with the consequence of my children suffering for my actions.  You may say they won't, but they will. . . in some way, shape, or form. . . simply because there are small minded people out there who will see your appearance and think negative vice positive.  Then you have people like me, who will NOT judge you, but will avoid you because "those" people would then judge ME for hanging out with you.  And again; its about how my kids and family are viewed. 


Even if I felt rainbow hair and goth clothing was who I was, I wouldn't want to sacrifice how my kids were viewed in school, sports, and amongst their peers. 


It's pretty ugly, but it is what it is.  I've seen this happen for less of an "extreme" look than what you are sporting in your pic.  There's no way my kids would suffer for a choice that would benefit no one but me. 


You all can deny this happens, but I think deep down we all know it does.  So what is the right answer?  To be forced into social norms to spare one's child from any bullying, rejection, rude comments, judging; or to be who you truly are?


There's no right answer, only the right answer for YOU based on your values.  I value how my kids are accepted/viewed over everything, so there you have MY answer. .. .


 



 


Quoting BubbyAndShmee:

I'm not talking about dressing inappropriately. I'm talking about dressing with your own style, or having alt/different style/hair/jewelry.



Quoting cocoroo:

Never for me, because i know how and when to dress properly.




Quoting BubbyAndShmee:

Nice to meet you, ladies :)








Quick question: have any of you gotten negative feedback from coworkers or superiors of your husbands regarding your looks/style?


 


 



 

JerseyAirGurl
by Ada on Sep. 15, 2013 at 4:40 PM

I got tattoos... And trying to get a quarter sleeve... I listen to mostly scremo, alt, indie, post core music. I don't really dress it except some band shirts. That isn't my thing.

ZanderandBella
by on Sep. 15, 2013 at 4:43 PM

I am inwardly punk, not so much on the outside lol! Mostly because I haven't fully discovered my own style yet (I had a very strict upbringing). I'd love to put some lime green in my hair though. We just got orders for England so I'm going to do a shopping spree and hopefully I can find some clothes that fit my style :)...but here's me for now...


Heather- Air Force Wife, Mom of two, Retired at age 25 thanks to It Works Global!
There are people that will tell you that you can't do it. They will even try to hold you back. However, it only means THEY can't do it. You can do anything you set your mind to and are willing to work hard to get.

HisUsmcWifey
by on Sep. 15, 2013 at 9:45 PM

 i've got one side done and I love it! It's by far one of my favorite piercings!


Quoting SierraLynn:

I want a triple forward helix piercing.


 

mlogsdon
by Mary on Sep. 15, 2013 at 10:07 PM
I had to look it up lol. I like it!!

Quoting HisUsmcWifey:

 i've got one side done and I love it! It's by far one of my favorite piercings!




Quoting SierraLynn:

I want a triple forward helix piercing.



 

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krys1025
by Member on Sep. 16, 2013 at 12:17 AM
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No not here. But welcome to the group..

Btw my dd would love your hair, I swear she used to change her color of her hair every week :)
mlogsdon
by Mary on Sep. 16, 2013 at 6:29 PM
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Quoting Anonymous:

I'm gonna be frank...

You don't look punk, goth, or alternative. You look like you're trying to hard to compensate for something else..your size. I'm not a thin girl, ill admit but I know my limitations. Short shaven hair on one side and a floppy weird bang on the other side doesn't even flatter the thinnest of girls(have ya seen Miley Cyrus lately?) I like all of your facial peircings except your eyebrow. A smaller black frame for glasses would look nice and a light blush and you would be really pretty. Hope I didn't offend you.

I dont see how that could be anything but offensive. 

usmclife58
by Nikki on Sep. 16, 2013 at 8:30 PM
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So... Her looks would be fine if she was thinner? Because only thin people can do that without doing it to "compensate"? Ridiculous.

Quoting Anonymous:

I'm gonna be frank...

You don't look punk, goth, or alternative. You look like you're trying to hard to compensate for something else..your size. I'm not a thin girl, ill admit but I know my limitations. Short shaven hair on one side and a floppy weird bang on the other side doesn't even flatter the thinnest of girls(have ya seen Miley Cyrus lately?) I like all of your facial peircings except your eyebrow. A smaller black frame for glasses would look nice and a light blush and you would be really pretty. Hope I didn't offend you.



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