She is about to turn 12. We just moved to Florida from England where we were for 6 years. My daughter simply is not adjusting at all, and we have been here at the new place for about 3 weeks now, of which she has been in school for 2 1/2 weeks.
1. She has no friends yet. She eats lunch aganist the wall. While she didn't pick up the british accent persay, she did pick up some of their slang, and sometimes catches herself using it. One day last week I went there because she forgot her lunch and one of the kids heard me talk to her and turned around and asked, "why don't you talk weird like she does?" She wanted to play volleyball when we first got here, but basically the coach shot her down and while we were talking to the coach about it, I heard the girls behind us talking amongst themselves about how they dont' want the new girl to play.
2. Her grades are horrible. I know I know we have only been here for less than 3 weeks, but she is failing everything. This is a girl who loved school. She cared about her work. Because she isn't doing her work, or not caring about it, she has an F in math and C's in every other subject. She straight up lied to her teacher and me about not having homework. She told me she didn't have any, she told her teacher her brother took it and when the teacher allowed her to skip PE to redo it, she failed to do it. She basically left that day and threw the undone paper away.
3. she cries nightly about hating it here. how she wants to go back.
I have gotten onto her about her school work and how unacceptable it is to just not try. To lie. I have ridden her butt a lot since then.
DH is concerned she may be depressed. Her birthday is October 1st and she has no friends. at all. I asked her what she wanted to do for her birthday and she said nothing. I asked if she wanted to invite anyone to a sleep over and she said that she doesn't have anyone. She said people think she is weird and stupid.
It just breaks my heart. I don't know if this is normal for a preteen to deal with or if maybe my daughter is depressed. We do not live on the base and the school does not have a lot of military students. We have never lived on base, and at this point I almost wish we did, simply so she'd be around people like her and who understand. Kids in school who wouldn't think the british talk is weird but cool.
I don't know how to help her. Or really what to do.
My heart breaks for her. She was the one child I wasn't worried about. SHe was always so open and never met a stranger. NOw she is so cold and closed off and just wish she'd meet that one person..all it takes is one friend and i wish she'd just meet that person already.