Is it standard to lose custody when you join the Army?
Please, help. I don't know what to do for my daughter. She joined the Army which he orginally was going to, but accidently hurt himself, so she joined because she was trying to do what is best for her family, went to Germany which her husband refused to go to, she deployed to Aftghanistan and finally came back to find that her husband has all the power of when she sees her son and the courts are agreeing with him because their son has stayed with him while she was gone.
They were not a strong couple when she left and getting a divorce now. He wanted to get back with her which she has not interest in and he is furious and hurting her through their son. I thought of him as a good parent (but now he is not on my good parent list) and she is a good Mom.
She safely came back from Afghanastan with the first 10 days off. She hasn't seen her son for over a year. He allowed her to see him 3 days out of 10. He lives 7 blocks away so it's not like it would be a transportation problem.
He wants his Sister to continue watching him, which my daughter pays 75% of he is supposed to pay the rest which I doubt he is. He just got in Kindergarten in a School close to his Sister so she can continue to watch him and get paid. The district that he is going to is higher rate than the one close by, but it is only a half day Kindergarden and the one close to her house is full day and the Daycare she found close by is a home Daycare, the owner has a B.A. and one of the main people who train other Daycare owners with the State. If he went to that Daycare one Parent could drop him off and the other woud pick him up. The courts
agreed with him because it is a better district and by the time they finally were able to get to School, School just started and he went 3 days so they didn't want to change anything for him.
She is going to go back to court for another temp. parenting plan which according to her lawyer doesn't seem like it wil accomplish anything positive. His lawyer said that they will settle for every other weekend and a couple hours on one day during the week and also wrote that he wont go after her retirment if she agrees to sign papererwork s he can get a passport to see the Dad's Dad which has been in jail for over 10 years because he was drug dealer and illegal in the Us then went to Mexico for several years which is where he wants to take their son. She has paid a huge amount to her Lawyer and can't afford to get another Lawyer and says the Parent Advocacy for the Military is for people in the opposite situation not for her.
I don't know what to do for her except be their for her and would like to do more, I just don't know what, I can't afford a better different lawyer for her either and with only 2 more court dates I think it might be to late.
She could end up getting deployed again and not make it back. She could of seen her son everyday, but her Dad was so furious with her and doesn't think their son really needs his Mom, but they do need her Money.
Do you have any suggestions on what to do?