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Hi I have a question. So here is a little background to the story I currently live in San Diego due to my husband being in the Navy but we are originally from another state so we have no family out here. We raised our one year old by our selfs and had no one at all since she was born. Now here is my question my mom is out here visiting me and it's the second day and I can't handle it she keeps telling me what to do and when to do it I'm about to break down or freak out I just want to tell her mom I got it I've done this by myself for a year almost two there is so much tension it's driving me nuts. She keeps saying words under her breath( she has done my whole childhood ) like that's rude or calling me the b word and of course I can hear it, but she denies that she says anything she keeps saying to my daughter to pick up her toys when it's two hours before her bedtime because she wants to go to bed. I don't know what to do so any help would be awesome I am trying to be understanding I have never gone through this before haha
by on Nov. 7, 2013 at 11:38 PM
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RKL10
by Member on Nov. 8, 2013 at 12:27 PM
Many other things already have put a wedge in our relationship haha I moved far away from home ( I originally come from a very small tone where most people don't move away) I eloped with my husband and had a baby while she wasn't here to see the birth my dad has been nothing more than supporting. Today's a new day thank you for all your help and advice


Quoting cocoroo:

You might be screwed, lol. Just tell her how you feel. She will either accept it or drive a wedge in your relationship. Good luck. I am 36 and past caring what my mother says about my parenting. It helps that I live 2500 miles away and have seen her once in 7 years.



Quoting RKL10:

I am also an only child I feel like me being an only child makes it worse haha






Quoting cocoroo:

Just be straightforward with her and tell her to keep her opinions to herself.  I lived with my parents until my oldest two were 5 and 2.  It was hard for my mom to separate herself from caregiving.  With my youngest two, there were times she would visit I had to tell her to back the fuck off, lol.  



RKL10
by Member on Nov. 8, 2013 at 12:27 PM
1 mom liked this
Thank you for your advice :)


Quoting USAFamily:

I have gone through the same thing. I respectfully told my mother, and then my mother in law that I appreciated them but was doing what I know is best. It's super important to set boundaries from to beginning, or you will be walked all over.

darbyakeep45
by Darby on Nov. 9, 2013 at 7:35 AM

Hugs!  These ladies have some great advice.   How long is she there for?

RKL10
by Member on Nov. 9, 2013 at 11:23 AM
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She leaves on Tuesday


Quoting darbyakeep45:

Hugs!  These ladies have some great advice.   How long is she there for?


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