I am new here and just seeking out advice. I have neve had to go through something like this before. Thi sis the first deployment and the first real issue we have had in our almost 5 years of marriage. My husband I love him first off he has been deployed since October. I was cautiously told about the amount of men that cheated on deployment but since this has never been an issue for us and he is in his 30s and has 2 kids and one on the way I simply did not think I had anything to worry about with him. However, I for some reason felt like he did not call me as often as he was or would tell me that he did not have good internet signal. So, I cheked his facebook and to my surprise I found a conversation he had going with one of the USO volunteers. He and she were both flirtatious. So , I posted to both of them from there and told him that he needed to call me now. He was so scared he called me from the range! She was so overapologetic saying that she had no interest in my husband that way and that she is sorry if it came across any different and she would sever any communication they had. He told me he loved me and his kids and wanted to be with me because he loved me and he was just stupid and it won't happen again and he is not volunteering anymore. etc. He says he wa just lonely and she needed a friend and that the conversation went somewhere it shouldn't have and they actually hung out together at the USO. I don't know what to believe anymore. I know my husband wouldn't ohysically do anything but I am so afraid. There is 8 months left of the deployment and I don't want to babysit or be a controlling wife. If I amean all the time what if I oush him away? I have been logged on all day and night on skype and fb and make myself readily available to him all the time when he calls I don't know where I am messing up here? Am I nieve to think they won't keep talking I don't know. i just heartbroken. What makes it worse is he is supposedly winning me back and he hasn't even wrote me or called me or anything in the last 24 hours!
update: appearently the power went ot and he fell asleep waiting for it to come back up. We had a 3 and a half hour skype session today he wrote to me on fb as soon as he saw me on and we started talking and then proceeded to tlaking. For the first time in a bit we actually had a conversation that didn't involve financesor just checking in and we had a true heart to heart. Since there was no real arguing goin on I told him that the ony way for us to truly put it behind us is for him to just be honest 100%. So he was he told me that they started talking while she was at the USO and she had been attacked and needed to be escorted around so he felt bad and started talking to her. The problem was in trying to be a friend he started complimenting her and flirting. He didn't deny it and said it wrong and stupid on his part and that it would not happen again. But I think something wonderful happened because we talked about it, us and our relationship. In this we both noticed that we were so overwhelmed with the kids the military deployment and school from both of us that our conversations were not that pleasant and we were not spending any time alone. He told me that he thought that is what we needed. The best part of it is that I really believe him he opened up to me and really told me how he felt and that he loved me and that I always had and always will have his heart. He wants to work on us and we both want to make us a priority even overseas. We came up with creative ways to date and such and I think this will make a big difference. I also told him that I want to be his friend and that when he feels lonely I am here for him, always. We cried, laughed, smiled, flirted, planned. I hink this is good, although he is not completely off the hook, he is not allowed to volunteer until she leaves which he told me is in a month because she is national guard. So thank God.