Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)

How do you feel about porn while your spouse is on deployment?

Posted by on Jan. 30, 2014 at 4:09 PM
  • 74 Replies

My husband is on submarines in the Navy, and when the boats are underway, porn is rampant like you wouldn't believe!  Those guys bring crazy amounts of porn.    

My husband is one of those down home, southern, respectful guys that won't look at porn to save his life.  He knows how I feel about it and he respects my feelings 100% and doesn't participate in discussions and such while underway.  

He tells me that the guys bring so much porn underway...it's just everywhere and it's all a lot of them talk about besides work stuff.  He's pretty careful about who he associates with on a personal level during underways.

Just curious...when your spouses go on deployment, is porn such a huge thing with the guys?  Or not really?  Do you care if they look at it?  How do you feel about it?

by on Jan. 30, 2014 at 4:09 PM
Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Replies (1-10):
katie23VA
by on Jan. 30, 2014 at 4:15 PM
1 mom liked this
If my DH didn't watch porn occasionally, I'd think he was a weirdo. A group of researchers, I'm not sure in what country, once tried to do a study comparing men who view porn and men who don't. You know what happened? They couldn't do the study because they couldn't find any men who didn't watch porn. It used to bother me a bit when DH would watch, mainly if it was when I was around because I'm always down to DTD. He knows now that if he's in the mood, he is to tell me and we have sex. Otherwise, if I'm not home, I don't care. I'm not saying your DH watches porn for sure, but you should try not to be too judgey of the guys who do and admit to it. They are just being normal guys. What else are they to do when they can't see their wives for months? Do you also think your DH doesn't masturbate at all?
darbyakeep45
by Darby on Jan. 30, 2014 at 4:21 PM
1 mom liked this

Wow.  I'm not judging anyone.  Please don't put words in my mouth.  My post was about service members and porn while they are deployed.  I never judged any of them.  I simply stated there is a LOT of it on the subs my husband has been on during his deployments, but that he chooses not to participate in the discussions and movies.  How is that judging?  Maybe you should look up the definition and re-think your response.  What other people is their business.  I'm simply asking the military wives in this group what their thoughts are on their spouses watching porn while they guys are deployed.  

I never said anything about masturbation either.  What goes on between my spouse and myself in OUR sex life is OUR business.  Not yours.  

Quoting katie23VA: If my DH didn't watch porn occasionally, I'd think he was a weirdo. A group of researchers, I'm not sure in what country, once tried to do a study comparing men who view porn and men who don't. You know what happened? They couldn't do the study because they couldn't find any men who didn't watch porn. It used to bother me a bit when DH would watch, mainly if it was when I was around because I'm always down to DTD. He knows now that if he's in the mood, he is to tell me and we have sex. Otherwise, if I'm not home, I don't care. I'm not saying your DH watches porn for sure, but you should try not to be too judgey of the guys who do and admit to it. They are just being normal guys. What else are they to do when they can't see their wives for months? Do you also think your DH doesn't masturbate at all?


jennkrzyz
by on Jan. 30, 2014 at 4:26 PM
My husband nor I watch porn when he's home, OR while he is deployed. I wouldn't be ok with it if he watched porn while he was away. I provide him with budoir pics of me to take over seas and if that's not enough for him then I'm not enough for him. I hve asked him in a complete open conversation if he wanted to watch porn while he is gone, and if so I would consider sending him some. He said no, he has no desire for it whatsoever.
darbyakeep45
by Darby on Jan. 30, 2014 at 4:29 PM

Exactly how my husband and I are as well.  I send him with plenty of things to "keep him busy":)  He's happy with that!  


Quoting jennkrzyz: My husband nor I watch porn when he's home, OR while he is deployed. I wouldn't be ok with it if he watched porn while he was away. I provide him with budoir pics of me to take over seas and if that's not enough for him then I'm not enough for him. I hve asked him in a complete open conversation if he wanted to watch porn while he is gone, and if so I would consider sending him some. He said no, he has no desire for it whatsoever.


chrlstoncharmed
by Melissa on Jan. 30, 2014 at 4:29 PM
5 moms liked this

There certainly ARE men out there who do not watch porn. It's a personal choice. 


jas_momof2
by アニメの雌犬 on Jan. 30, 2014 at 4:30 PM
1 mom liked this

He's never really mentioned the amount that's out there...come to think of it, never really mentioned it at all.  I'm sure there is, I'm sure he has and it honestly doesn't bother me. 


jas_momof2
by アニメの雌犬 on Jan. 30, 2014 at 4:32 PM
1 mom liked this

Hmmm - or maybe he hasn't...  lol...  It's really not something that comes up in general conversation before, during or after he's gone...

darbyakeep45
by Darby on Jan. 30, 2014 at 4:34 PM

I have strong feelings about it so we talked about it a few times during the first few years of our marriage.  We haven't discussed it in recent years though.

Quoting jas_momof2:

Hmmm - or maybe he hasn't...  lol...  It's really not something that comes up in general conversation before, during or after he's gone...


jas_momof2
by アニメの雌犬 on Jan. 30, 2014 at 4:40 PM
1 mom liked this

We're celebrating 24 years married this year.  It's not something I ever really think about.  I know where I stand in his eyes and that's all that matters to me.

Quoting darbyakeep45:

I have strong feelings about it so we talked about it a few times during the first few years of our marriage.  We haven't discussed it in recent years though.

Quoting jas_momof2:

Hmmm - or maybe he hasn't...  lol...  It's really not something that comes up in general conversation before, during or after he's gone...




chrlstoncharmed
by Melissa on Jan. 30, 2014 at 4:44 PM
1 mom liked this

DH knows where to go for porn. lol Honestly, I've been up to my elbows in adult content since 2007 when I started doing adult websites. I have a hard drive that I need to have fixed, but I don't want to take it in because of all my adult website content backups. lol So embarrassing. Right now I'm working on a string bikini site for Playboy models, so .. I guess I'm just desensitized. ;-)

Add your quick reply below:
You must be a member to reply to this post.
Join the Meeting Place for Moms!
Talk to other moms, share advice, and have fun!

(minimum 6 characters)