Has your spouse ever had to give a character reference for another service member?
My husband was asked to do this last week. He was definitely caught off guard. He was asked by another guy from the last sub he was on (which was in 2011) to write a statement of his character and experiences my husband had with him while on the boat. This guy is still on the boat, and apparently there is another guy accusing him of hazing and treating junior guys badly. My husband hasn't talked to him since he left the boat in 2011, so he was surprised to hear from him. My husband wrote up a statement of how he witnessed this service member behaving, leading, etc. when he was around him. He never witnessed anything like what the guy is being accused now.
Anyways...has your spouse ever been asked to do anything like that before?
He told the guy he couldn't make any comments other than what he witnessed when he was on the boat with the guy 3 years ago and that really wasn't much to be honest. DH was only on that boat for 1 year and they were gone for the majority of that time. He didn't work directly with this guy, he was just in the Chief's quarters with him.