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Has your spouse ever had to give a character reference for another service member?

Posted by on Feb. 1, 2014 at 5:28 PM
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My husband was asked to do this last week.  He was definitely caught off guard.  He was asked by another guy from the last sub he was on (which was in 2011) to write a statement of his character and experiences my husband had with him while on the boat.  This guy is still on the boat, and apparently there is another guy accusing him of hazing and treating junior guys badly.  My husband hasn't talked to him since he left the boat in 2011, so he was surprised to hear from him.  My husband wrote up a statement of how he witnessed this service member behaving, leading, etc. when he was around him.  He never witnessed anything like what the guy is being accused now.  

Anyways...has your spouse ever been asked to do anything like that before?  

He told the guy he couldn't make any comments other than what he witnessed when he was on the boat with the guy 3 years ago and that really wasn't much to be honest.  DH was only on that boat for 1 year and they were gone for the majority of that time.  He didn't work directly with this guy, he was just in the Chief's quarters with him.  

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cocoroo
by Coco on Feb. 1, 2014 at 5:33 PM

I don think my dh has ever had to do one.

jas_momof2
by アニメの雌犬 on Feb. 1, 2014 at 5:46 PM

No...not for something like that.

TheartAH
by Bronze Member on Feb. 1, 2014 at 5:57 PM
Yes more than once.
chrlstoncharmed
by Melissa on Feb. 1, 2014 at 5:59 PM
Yes, many times.
usmclife58
by Nikki on Feb. 1, 2014 at 7:20 PM

He has been asked, but he has refused every time.

darbyakeep45
by Darby on Feb. 1, 2014 at 7:23 PM

Do you mind if I ask why?  Does he just not want to get involved in situations like that?  

Quoting usmclife58:

He has been asked, but he has refused every time.


DvlDogWfe
by Stella on Feb. 1, 2014 at 7:23 PM
Yes, but for a civilian job after the guy was already out of the service.
MrsDavidB25
by Stacey on Feb. 1, 2014 at 7:30 PM

 I just asked him. He said yes, plenty of times. One was even during  a court martial and he had to get up on the stand.

violinjewel
by Julia on Feb. 1, 2014 at 7:39 PM
No he hasn't.
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usmclife58
by Nikki on Feb. 1, 2014 at 7:44 PM

That's exactly why he doesn't. 

Quoting darbyakeep45:

Do you mind if I ask why?  Does he just not want to get involved in situations like that?  

Quoting usmclife58:

He has been asked, but he has refused every time.




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