Hi, I'm Meg. I'm sixteen (kind of young I admit) but I needed a little advice and I need it now.
My boyfriend is almost eighteen, he's about to graduate and about to enlist in the Navy. We've both done Navy ROTC through out our high school years, Justin is an ensign and I am a Petty Officer First class. I'm the leader of my class and that means I have a very small window that I can wiggle around in and make mistakes in.
Valentines day was five months that I've been with Justin and that was the night that I lost my innocence, and might have gotten pregnant. I never thought I'd be sixteen and pregnant but I made a stupid mistake and now I'm showing signs of early pregnancy. In this case Justin would gain legal guardianship over me (which there is lawful cause due to my household conditions and if I did turn up pregnant my parents would give me the boot) and then enlist. In the six weeks he would be at boot camp I would stay with my best friend since middle school and then when Justin came back we would get a couples room on base. I would then have a military ID and would be able to shop at our Navy Exchange and our Commisary.
In the case that I'm not pregnant Justin will wait until after I graduate to enlist, and then after that we'd carry out life like that.
Thats not entirely what I'm worried about. I'm worried that I won't know how to cope with him going off to boot camp. I hate being away from him for more than a few days, six weeks is going to chew my heart out and spit it up on the sidewalk and trudge away laughing. How do women cope with this? I've googled it and googled it so many times but I need words from someone who's been through it. And deployment. I don't even want to think about it. Six months or more with limited contact and 135.5 days of counting. I apologize if I sound young, and dumb and naive but I can't stop thinking about this stuff. It's probably really stupid to plan and organize my life around someone I've only been with for half a year while I'm still in highschool and my grades are slipping down to my ankles but I'm not the sharpest tool in the shed, and here's someone I trust and love and someone who I know for a fact would never let me go without and I dont know, the thought that he could vanish is the scarriest thing ever.
So here alies the question, how do I cope with the separation?