So Im posting here because I feel this group will understand the best even though my husband is out of the military(in for 6, has been out a year) and many of yours are still in. Also most of this situation is based around "what ifs" but it is a real situation discussion wise for DH and I. If that makes sense.
I will be the first to admit Im poorly educated on what is going on with Russia and the Ukraine. Ive spent the last hour trying to catch up, form and opinion and educate myself. We dont have cable tv, only internet.
What prompted this was my husband asking what I knew. He said that should the US go to NATO aid, if he is not called back(still has a year left of inactive) he will *join*. I told him Im not happy with that(this is where the whole "what ifs come in).
His side is that its what feel right to him, what he feels is his duty(which I understand). Many of his frineds are still in, that he needs to stand up when he feels many peoople would not.
My side is that he got out when his contract was up for a reason. We have 3 boys(6, 4, 10m) who are head over heals for him, and I dont want him to go. Maybe its my over reaction but i feel like hes pushing his luck of coming home. He went 3 times and thankful made it home when some of his friends did not. Why put himself in that position again. Most of this I said to him, but he had to go to work and said we would talk about it when he got home.
There is more I want to say to him but, Im afraid it will come out wrong.
This is my thought. He talks as if him going would make a difference. That comes out wrong dosent it. 1) not that he thinks hes some super human, but the ideal that everyperson counts towards the greater goal 2) I dont want him to think im diminishing his part in what ever the goal may be.
But I can gaurentee that him not being in our boys's life(should the terrible happen) will make the biggest difference. I think we see that from different sides though. I see it as them not having their father, he sees it as showing them he stood up for what he thought was right and should be done.
I almost want to tell him we should just move on because I feel like its such a far fetched sinario anyway. But maybe this is a discussion that needs to be had?
Any advice ladies?