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Yesterday was my sisters 36th birhtday. At  dinner she announced that my BIL and her were going to begin the adoption process. They have 3 children. Two teenagers and an 8 year old. Needless to say, it came as a bit of a shock to the rest of the family, as she has never indicated that she wanted to adopt.

After her youngest was born, they believed their family was complete and took permanent birth control measures. Now 8 years later, they are finding that they want another child. She says that they have been discussing and researching adoption for the last couple of years and would like to adopt a child around elementary school age. I am really excited for them as they start this new journey in life.

After dinner my DH and I were talking about it, he asked if I ever thought about having another child. I told him that when our son was born almost 10 years ago, I was worried about the significant age gap between my older children and the baby, and wondered if perhaps it was selfish to have him essentially grow up alone without a sibling closer to his own age. Needless to say, I got over it pretty quickly. I knew in my heart after he was born that our family was complete, it just took a little bit for my head to realize it too. 

Is your family complete? Do you ever find yourself wanting to have another child? Are you going to have or adopt another child?

by on Mar. 17, 2014 at 9:01 AM
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Cafe MichelleP
by Head Admin on Mar. 17, 2014 at 11:03 AM
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Quoting violinjewel: Haha! Funny this question gets asked now, lol. I was going to make a post about this. We thought we were complete, but I guess God has different plans. Anyways, we will be complete in November as a family of five instead. No one say anything on Facebook, as I haven't told a whole lot of people yet.

stork Congratulations!

chrlstoncharmed
by Melissa on Mar. 17, 2014 at 11:33 AM

I have 4 kids from my first marriage - 24, 21, 16, 14. DH does not and can not have children of his own. We were going to pursue ICSI but an unfortunate event made that impossible during our window of opportunity. Now I'm too old. We have talked about adoption, but we still have our own personal goals to achieve first ... like buying a house! First things first. 

chrlstoncharmed
by Melissa on Mar. 17, 2014 at 11:34 AM
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:::squeep::: So happy!!!! 

Quoting violinjewel: Haha! Funny this question gets asked now, lol. I was going to make a post about this. We thought we were complete, but I guess God has different plans. Anyways, we will be complete in November as a family of five instead. No one say anything on Facebook, as I haven't told a whole lot of people yet.


violinjewel
by Julia on Mar. 17, 2014 at 11:37 AM
Thanks:)

Quoting chrlstoncharmed:

:::squeep::: So happy!!!! 

Quoting violinjewel: Haha! Funny this question gets asked now, lol. I was going to make a post about this. We thought we were complete, but I guess God has different plans. Anyways, we will be complete in November as a family of five instead. No one say anything on Facebook, as I haven't told a whole lot of people yet.

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cocoroo
by Coco on Mar. 17, 2014 at 12:05 PM
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Say what? I'm a shocked. Congratulations. I'm very excited for you.

Quoting violinjewel: Haha! Funny this question gets asked now, lol. I was going to make a post about this. We thought we were complete, but I guess God has different plans. Anyways, we will be complete in November as a family of five instead. No one say anything on Facebook, as I haven't told a whole lot of people yet.
cocoroo
by Coco on Mar. 17, 2014 at 12:11 PM
We are definitely done. My children are 19, 16, 13, and 11. I have been a mother since I was 17.

My father and stepmom are planning on becoming foster parents. They are 62 and 60. I ddon't get it. They like to travel overseas. My stepmom doesn't like children. I don't get it.
violinjewel
by Julia on Mar. 17, 2014 at 12:17 PM
Thank-you:) Oh yea, I'm definitely shocked too.. I didn't think I would be almost 33 years old having another baby. I'm getting to an ok feeling about it right now. My husband and kids are very excited.

Quoting cocoroo: Say what? I'm a shocked. Congratulations. I'm very excited for you.

Quoting violinjewel: Haha! Funny this question gets asked now, lol. I was going to make a post about this. We thought we were complete, but I guess God has different plans. Anyways, we will be complete in November as a family of five instead. No one say anything on Facebook, as I haven't told a whole lot of people yet.
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JerseyAirGurl
by Ada on Mar. 17, 2014 at 12:40 PM
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How exciting and congrats

Quoting violinjewel: Haha! Funny this question gets asked now, lol. I was going to make a post about this. We thought we were complete, but I guess God has different plans. Anyways, we will be complete in November as a family of five instead. No one say anything on Facebook, as I haven't told a whole lot of people yet.
JerseyAirGurl
by Ada on Mar. 17, 2014 at 12:41 PM
I want two more... After that I'm complete
mandaschelle
by Bronze Member on Mar. 17, 2014 at 12:45 PM
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Congratulations
I'm 33 almost 34 just had my last baby in February
It's different than a young pregnancy but you will do great.
I think I bounced back much better this time than with dd


Quoting violinjewel: Thank-you:) Oh yea, I'm definitely shocked too.. I didn't think I would be almost 33 years old having another baby. I'm getting to an ok feeling about it right now. My husband and kids are very excited.

Quoting cocoroo: Say what? I'm a shocked. Congratulations. I'm very excited for you.

Quoting violinjewel: Haha! Funny this question gets asked now, lol. I was going to make a post about this. We thought we were complete, but I guess God has different plans. Anyways, we will be complete in November as a family of five instead. No one say anything on Facebook, as I haven't told a whole lot of people yet.
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