have you ever done vacations back to your home state to visit family? We've always done this (7 years now), and every time we go, someone in my husband's family gets annoyed because they didn't get enough time with us. Even when we have divided our time equally, his family always complains. Well, my husband decided he no longer wants to do vacations home to FL. So we have planned a trip this spring break to DC for the cherry blossom festival, and have booked a disney cruise for next year. When he told his family our plans, his mom and brother freaked out. I thought they whined before. Now it's them crying "I will never see you guys, yada yada yada".
I just don't get why they never can come and visit us, but are so overbearing when we come. We spend thousands in airfare, or several hundred driving to/from see them, and by the end someone's feelings are always hurt. We have all our family in one area of FL. So we get see everyone at once. But obviously we have to limit our time with everybody. Especially since his parents are divorced. Do you have extended family dramas with your vacations? I am at a point now, that I just don't care anymore. I just feel bad for my husband, because every email or phone call from his family is them asking if/when we will come home for a visit.