At church today, I got a much needed dose of perspective. We have a family at church that are Sudanese refugees. They have 5 kids too and although the ages are spread out more than mine they have a baby that is a month younger than mine. What I didn't realize is that the husband still lives and works in the Sudan. He works for the south Sudanese government and things aren't great in the Sudan right now.
He gets to come visit the U.S. about once a year and stays for about 6 weeks. He hasn't seen the baby yet. They can talk sporadically on the phone but the connection is not so good. There are no plans currently for him to be able to love permently in the states and it is too dangerous for them to go visit in the Sudan. I have never heard her complian once. I had no idea until today that this was even the situation. I have only known her a year, but they moved to America 12 years ago and I am under the impression that this has been the situation the entire time.
At any rate, I know that we all have our trials and tribulations in military life. Deployments and remotes are not fun and everyone has their story. Some have it harder than others and I am not trying to downplay the difficulties that anyone else has faced/is facing. However, for me, knowing that she sees her husband only six weeks at a time maybe once a year, for the past 12 years with no end in sight, sure put a different perspective on my situation.