I'm so pissed at my SIL and MIL right now, that this got pretty long.
In August, my FIL passed away. Since then, my DH has been having to send money to Mexico to his mother and sister. For some reason, his mother refuses to get a job. His sister, brags about how "independent" she is and can fend for herself.... but, also refuses to get a job. She is 17, turns 18 in August. I have family in Mexico too- since they were all 14, they have gone out to get a job. I have an aunt and uncle who were pretty well off, so their kids didn't need a job, but they wanted to be independent and make their own money, so they got a job.
I just don't understand why my SIL doesn't want to get a job.... and she NEEDS one! When we moved here in October, my husband didn't want me to work- the plan for us was so I could go back to school full time and also try and get pregnant. Since his mother and sister refuse to get a job and we have to keep sending them money, that plan has been put on hold.... again!
I'm now working 3 jobs which I pretty much just started all of them, so I haven't really gotten paid yet. One of the jobs is cleaning a couple houses on my free days. Another is a retail job, which they only had part-time, but it was something. The other, is marketing for a company and it's one of those work-from-home jobs, so I do it on my days off from the retail job.
I'm doing what I can to pay our bills and also have enough to send my MIL and SIL. But, they won't even give us a chance to catch up on our own bills! What pisses me off even more, is that they are both "woe is me" type of people and make up all these stories so we can send them money.
When we got our taxes, we wanted to use a good chunk of that to fix our car. We were only able to do minimal stuff on it, because we had to send them $1,500 because his sister sent this "urgent" message saying how their mom needed a surgery or she could die... blah, blah, blah. Our car still hasn't gotten fixed and it's only getting worse!
Well, that was almost 2 months ago.... and she never got a surgery. A month after that, she had some other excuse and we sent them $800. Now, it's happening every week where they "need" money and we have to send them some more. We are late on a couple bills because we don't have enough to pay our own stuff because we have to keep sending them money.
Another thing that makes me so angry is that they call my husband and make him feel terrible! They tell him stuff like, "I thought you would man up and be better after your father died!" or "You don't even remember that you have family here anymore!" Then they go and demand money after they tell him all that. We were trying to save money so we could go see them for my DH's birthday, but we haven't been able to put $1 in savings and then they give him crap how he hasn't gone to visit yet.
It just baffles me how we make $40 last a week here for gas and food and they can't make $80 last more than 4 days! His sister messaged him a while ago saying they need more money. She even said they "need" $100. We don't even have that much right now. I told him to tell her that we can only send $40 right now and then when he gets paid we will send the rest, because if we send any more, then we won't have money for gas and we won't be able to get to work and then we won't get paid and then we won't even have a penny to send them.
He did. We'll see how that goes.
The day I wrote this, that night, I was waiting for my husband to get home so we could talk about this more. It ended up being like a 3-day conversation. We've been busy with work and stuff, that we had to pretty much keep putting the conversation on "pause" and then continue the next day.
The very next day, we got a letter from the IRS, saying we had missed something on our taxes and we received a check with the rest of our refund apparently. It was such a huge blessing for us! When I saw the check, I literally cried! We were able to get my husband new boots and gear that he really needed for work. We also paid bills and did a little more work on our car.
We also did use a little bit and went out to dinner, which we had not done in a very, very long time. We finished our talk about his mother and sister. He was saying how his mother is so stubborn and she will probably get mad- I told him he has to be stubborn as well and if she gets mad, then so what? She'll eventually get over it.
He sent his sister a message that night, telling her that we don't have the kind of money to be sending them so much all the time. He told her that we will still help, but we can only send $120 every 2 weeks. She said they will "try" to make that last, but everything is "so expensive" over there. Which is total BS, because things cannot be more expensive there than here and we make that last with no problem.
I just hope this works out. I keep seeing pictures of her on FaceBook with really nice shoes and clothes that I know she didn't have before (because she lived with us before) and also pictures of her out with her friends all the time doing things that require spending money. If she wants to keep up her little lifestyle, then she should really try on getting a job. I don't think it's fair that I'm working my butt off and I can barely even afford to buy me a stinking bra!