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DH joined the navy.

Posted by on Apr. 10, 2014 at 4:00 PM
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I grew up army. I am nervous. Right now we are both working. I work in a different city and dd starts kindergarten this year. It will be a huge pay cut for us right now. However, he has been wanting this since he was a very very very long time. I am 25 and dh is 26 we have a 5 year old and 3 year old. Our youngest is severly asthmatic. I am nervous about the paycut, I am nervous about moving. I am nervous for him to be gone. Not so much to be away from family. My family didn't even speak to me for 2 years.  Advice is appreciated. 

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gunsgirl
by Silver Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 6:24 PM
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make sure you get enrolled in the special needs program for your son, it will be very important And is manditory, this will keep you from getting stationed some where that could be potentially dangerous for him.

the navy is a sea ging service, prepare yourself now for the underway schedule and possible deployments ( the navy can get underway for 6 months at time and have a required underway period of up to 220 days a year.)

if you do not know how learn to change the tire, check the oil, and fix a toilet. :) something always seems to break the day after they leave.

with thr BAH, BAS and no premium insurance and in some cases lower RX costs, ( my inhalers are 5.00, and my albuterol is 12 dollars)  it may not be as much of a pay cut as you think.

also there are other allowances a member gets when they are on a ship and get under way, or deploy.

ReadWriteLuv
by Silver Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 6:59 PM

I'm surprised they let him in at 26 with three dependents, especially with one of those having health issues. They must have changed the requirement standards again. 

UCFknight
by Bronze Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 7:37 PM

Hi and welcome! What's his rate? I don't know much about fleet as my husband does not work on ships. The pay cut was very hard for us when he decided to go back in. We were out for a little over two years and both made great money. It just takes some budgeting. Once you are settlled into your first duty station, sit and figure out your costs for each month and how much groceries/gas, etc will cost as you are in a new area. We moved from FL to California for the first assignment, and boy I was shocked at gas prices there! Anyway, Good luck!

darbyakeep45
by Darby on Apr. 10, 2014 at 7:49 PM

Welcome to the group!  My husband is on submarines.  He's been in for 15 years.  He was already in the Navy when we got married, so there's no "before" for me so to speak.  I have a special needs son and the Navy has been wonderful for us and our family.  I wish you the best!

crazymama1008
by Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 10:44 PM

He is going in as an E-3. I have a bachelors degree and am working and plan on working when we get stationed. Our son is asthmatic on steriods frequently sees a pulmonologist. However, he is not the person joining, dh is. They were not concerned at all with the health issues of our son considering I am the one who deals with all of it. We got a dependant waiver the only thing we have is a car payment which has 6mo til pay off. and student loans( which are in defferment). 

Quoting ReadWriteLuv:

I'm surprised they let him in at 26 with three dependents, especially with one of those having health issues. They must have changed the requirement standards again. 


ReadWriteLuv
by Silver Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 10:47 PM

I figured you needed a dependent waiver. 

That may be a crazy huge pay cut for you though, and it may not get better for 3-4 years or more. Are you guys going to be ok financially? 

Quoting crazymama1008:

He is going in as an E-3. I have a bachelors degree and am working and plan on working when we get stationed. Our son is asthmatic on steriods frequently sees a pulmonologist. However, he is not the person joining, dh is. They were not concerned at all with the health issues of our son considering I am the one who deals with all of it. We got a dependant waiver the only thing we have is a car payment which has 6mo til pay off. and student loans( which are in defferment). 

Quoting ReadWriteLuv:

I'm surprised they let him in at 26 with three dependents, especially with one of those having health issues. They must have changed the requirement standards again. 



cocoroo
by Coco on Apr. 10, 2014 at 10:51 PM
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Family health problems and needs come into play in the military.  Your son will need to be in the Exceptional Family Member Program (or the Navy equivalent).  It will determine where your dh can and cannot be stationed.  Your son is obviously not the one who enlisted, but the military usually considers all these things.  I'm not sure if they do for initial enlistment, but they will for reassignments.

Quoting crazymama1008:

He is going in as an E-3. I have a bachelors degree and am working and plan on working when we get stationed. Our son is asthmatic on steriods frequently sees a pulmonologist. However, he is not the person joining, dh is. They were not concerned at all with the health issues of our son considering I am the one who deals with all of it. We got a dependant waiver the only thing we have is a car payment which has 6mo til pay off. and student loans( which are in defferment). 

Quoting ReadWriteLuv:

I'm surprised they let him in at 26 with three dependents, especially with one of those having health issues. They must have changed the requirement standards again. 



crazymama1008
by Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 10:58 PM

Hi, and thank you. The only thing they had available was airman pact program. So he is going in undesignated at first.  There wasn't any jobs available when he went to MEPS :-(. He scored an 87 on asvab and did great on his line scores. They said that November is a rough time to get jobs. idk why. He doesn't want to go back though and move his basic date backwards. I plan on working wherever we get stationed. Due to our ds's asthma I work in childcare so I can know what is going on with him. He is getting better with it but I have had bad luck with bad daycare providers ignoring his coughing and then he spirals out of control.  I have a Bs is Psychology/Child development and am director qualified where I am. I am a lead preschool teacher. Hopefully I can find work where we move. I just stress about everythign all the time. I like knowing everything for certain and freak when things are up in the air. Which I am well aware that I will have to get over. Very quickly. DH has one course (college algebra) to complete before he has his bs.  Once he takes that class he is going to apply for OCS. probably after being in for about a year. he should have been done but he had to take the developmental math at his university. Ugh. :/. Stressed out but hopeful! 

Quoting UCFknight:

Hi and welcome! What's his rate? I don't know much about fleet as my husband does not work on ships. The pay cut was very hard for us when he decided to go back in. We were out for a little over two years and both made great money. It just takes some budgeting. Once you are settlled into your first duty station, sit and figure out your costs for each month and how much groceries/gas, etc will cost as you are in a new area. We moved from FL to California for the first assignment, and boy I was shocked at gas prices there! Anyway, Good luck!


crazymama1008
by Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 11:02 PM

Its about a 600$ a month paycut if you include the benefits and housing. which is okay. according to my calculations after our bills at an E-3 with less than 2 years exp we should have after essential bills 900$ a month for food gas clothes. I also plan on working if at all possible. Even if that means seeing about getting licensed for home daycare at our house. We have made it on less. :-). We dont' have alot of necessary expenses. Our bills add up to 500-600 a month if we live on base housing. 

Quoting ReadWriteLuv:

I figured you needed a dependent waiver. 

That may be a crazy huge pay cut for you though, and it may not get better for 3-4 years or more. Are you guys going to be ok financially? 

Quoting crazymama1008:

He is going in as an E-3. I have a bachelors degree and am working and plan on working when we get stationed. Our son is asthmatic on steriods frequently sees a pulmonologist. However, he is not the person joining, dh is. They were not concerned at all with the health issues of our son considering I am the one who deals with all of it. We got a dependant waiver the only thing we have is a car payment which has 6mo til pay off. and student loans( which are in defferment). 

Quoting ReadWriteLuv:

I'm surprised they let him in at 26 with three dependents, especially with one of those having health issues. They must have changed the requirement standards again. 



crazymama1008
by Member on Apr. 10, 2014 at 11:06 PM
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They didn't say anything they did say that I would need to contact the ombudsman when we find out where we are stationed so we can get set up with and asthma specialist immediately upon arrival at our base to get his medication. On his current cocktail he is doing pretty well. Qvar,singulair,zyrtec, Albuterol. Nasonex.. Idk why qvar is working they said something about smaller particles. He had MRSA last year but we kicked it thank god!!! We currently live in Wichita, Ks which is #1 worst for asthma and allergies both his asthma specialist and pulmonologist believe getting out of here will help greatly!

Quoting cocoroo:

Family health problems and needs come into play in the military.  Your son will need to be in the Exceptional Family Member Program (or the Navy equivalent).  It will determine where your dh can and cannot be stationed.  Your son is obviously not the one who enlisted, but the military usually considers all these things.  I'm not sure if they do for initial enlistment, but they will for reassignments.

Quoting crazymama1008:

He is going in as an E-3. I have a bachelors degree and am working and plan on working when we get stationed. Our son is asthmatic on steriods frequently sees a pulmonologist. However, he is not the person joining, dh is. They were not concerned at all with the health issues of our son considering I am the one who deals with all of it. We got a dependant waiver the only thing we have is a car payment which has 6mo til pay off. and student loans( which are in defferment). 

Quoting ReadWriteLuv:

I'm surprised they let him in at 26 with three dependents, especially with one of those having health issues. They must have changed the requirement standards again. 



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