You just have to keep yourself busy, and learn to be independent. Know that you will not be able to talk to them all the time, and sometimes he may not be on when he said he would be. Don't live next to the computer or phone just waiting for the call. If you do that it will drag on forever and you will stay depressed. You need to stay strong for your little one.
Welcome! I would edit your post and take out the date you included...never a good idea to post ANY dates on the internet.
Welcome! The time he spends in basic and training will actually be your shortest time apart. It's sort of a test run for what you both will be dealing with once he goes to the fleet/battalion/etc. Like the others have said, don't let your life stop. Stay busy, get things prepared for your first move once he graduates school, spend time with family/friends now as you most likely will not be stationed nearby. Those who have a positive outlook with this career do well. As long as you know, you must become very independent. Even though you're married, your spouse will be gone often, and will miss many holidays and celebrations. Oh, and most bases offer a new spouses class. I highly encourage you to take it. It will give you lots of good information. Good luck, and welcome!
Find a hobby. Spend lots of time with friends.
And don't ever say things like, "I'm having a hard to accepting your absence from your child's life." This man is still your husband, and he's still your child's father, but he's taking steps toward a better life for both of you. You need to step up and be strong. It sucks sometimes, but you can't get all emotional and distraught about it.
There's not a whole lot for me to add at this point-it looks like all the basics have been covered. He's doing what he needs to so that he can take care of his family, so try to focus on that rather than "he's being absent from his child's life." He's not being absent (meaning not a part of his/her life), he's working and not in the same space as you geographically. All of you can still connect no matter where he is or how long he is gone. It takes effort, but it can be done.
Quoting ReadWriteLuv: Find a hobby. Spend lots of time with friends.And don't ever say things like, "I'm having a hard to accepting your absence from your child's life." This man is still your husband, and he's still your child's father, but he's taking steps toward a better life for both of you. You need to step up and be strong. It sucks sometimes, but you can't get all emotional and distraught about it.
Two feet - stand on them.
Learn to be your own person. I was 5 months pregnant, had a 2 1/2 yo, and a 6 yo when my dh went to basic training. It was hard, but I did it. I was 700 miles from family, had no help, and few friends because we had just moved 5 months prior. I just stayed busy and figured it out.
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