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Marrying a man in the infantry. What steps do we have to do?

Anonymous
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Ok so we are planning on getting married August 25th. What steps do we need to do? Is just getting married in the court house good enough or do we have to go throw the Army? He is leaving for Germany in December (or January can't remember) will I be able to go with him?
Posted by Anonymous on Jun. 21, 2014 at 11:21 PM
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chrlstoncharmed
by Melissa on Jun. 21, 2014 at 11:43 PM
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Yes, a courthouse marriage is valid. Your husband will need to enroll you in DEERS. You will need to provide your marriage license, birth certificate, SS card in order to enroll. Then you can get your military ID. After you are enrolled, he can request to have his orders ammended so can accompany him to his duty station in Germany.

Do you have children? 

SlapItHigh
by Gold Member on Jun. 22, 2014 at 1:16 AM
It depends, have your soon-to-be-husband find out.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jun. 22, 2014 at 1:20 AM
Depending on rank you may be required to take marriage classes. As stated before, have your SO ask.
USAFamily
by Melissa on Jun. 22, 2014 at 3:38 AM
For real? When did that start?

Quoting Anonymous: Depending on rank you may be required to take marriage classes. As stated before, have your SO ask.
cocoroo
by Coco on Jun. 22, 2014 at 5:26 AM
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Why would you need to go through the military?  You need to get married legally either through a courthouse, judge's office, or a wedding.  He needs to get you enrolled in DEERS, get you an ID card, and if he has hard copy orders, you need to start getting the stuff going to move to Germany.  You will be able to come. You will just need to get command sponsorship.  To do that, you need to go to the EFMP office and have a face to face meeting, have physical within the last year, and they need to go over your medical records to make sure you don't have any medical conditions the gaining facility take care of properly.  Where in Germany is he going? Does he have hard copy orders yet or is he just "on assignment"?  

I just got to Germany Wednesday night.  The moving process can be a bit much, but it is doable. Start studying for the driver's test a little before you leave the states, so you can get your license right away.  Thursday and Friday were German holidays, so we couldn't really do anything (house hunting, driver's test, registering kids for school, etc).  We have to start doing it all on Monday.

darbyakeep45
by Darby on Jun. 22, 2014 at 5:38 AM

Melissa and Coco have the right advice...good luck!

lilmama8408
by Member on Jun. 22, 2014 at 6:14 AM
Get married.
He takes you on base with marriage papers, photo id, social security card. Then he can get you a dependent ID and add you to DEERS.

Then he can request altered orders to include you in the move.
sahmw2010
by Beth on Jun. 22, 2014 at 9:12 AM
You just get married. He then takes your marriage license to post to enroll in deers and everythig else. We went and got my id before he took everything with him back to post. We did it at our local coast guard station. These ladies really have everything covered
mrsary
by Bronze Member on Jun. 22, 2014 at 9:16 AM
It is the same as getting married to anyone else. Separation is not recognized in the military and thats about the only marital difference.
mom2jessnky
by Dedi on Jun. 22, 2014 at 11:05 AM

There's good advice in this thread.

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