Now I should be like "Yay we get money and I don't have to do anything except work and take care of DD while he earns all the dough!" But the way I am feeling I that he doesn't exactly understand. Which I know he does to an extent... but the Army (reserves or active) is a big deal. I think he sees it as a free ride to college and earns money while staying a civilian and not really doing anything. We have talked about it and I have voiced how I feel and he says he is 100% Reay and knows what he is getting in to. I say I guess we'll see.
Any advice or food for thought?
I am also an ex active duty army wife, not saying I know it all or anywhere along those lines, but I know it's hard and what it takes. But fiancé wants to go reserves. I kind of see myself thinking, "if your joining why are you doing the reserves? They don't really do anything. Why don't you do active duty?" Which is kinda harsh honestly. But I don't see him ever getting deployed (he will be joining a unit that a separate friend is in and they don't get deployed. Only go to the usual drills)
My mind is all over the place!