I finally found away to get my children to do things in an easier way. Instead of telling them to go do something, I ask. I figured most people do not like to be told what to do. I know how I am. So when I want something I will ask them to do me a favor and they do it. It really is treating them like an adult. I don't think you can do that in all issues, However many you can.
Works for me, I hope it will help you.
In His service,