My child turned 3 in December.
I don't know what to do about this! I do know that it is constant and everyday. I'm going batty.
She says the opposite of whatever I say. Call it backtalk, arguing, bickering, whatever but I would like it to stop. If I say don't touch that it is dirty she'll say It's not dirty. If I say go in the bathroom and go pee pee she'll say I don't have to go pee pee (even if she does need to go). If I say stop that is dangerous she'll say It's not dangerous. If I say You are not getting marshmallow cereal she'll say I am getting marshmallow cereal. And if I say stop or you're gonig to be in trouble she'll say I'm not going to be in trouble. The list goes on and on. I have no idea how to make it stop.
Anyone else dealing with this or have suggestions?
Give choices. You can go to the bathroom or you can go to bed. Guess which one she'll pick. I have been having the same problem with my 3 y/o (turned 3 in Nov). He is constantly doing this. In the last few days I have decided not to allow him that power. I give a choice: that is dirty, if you touch it you will go to bed, if not, you'll get to watch your show (or have a snack or whatever). Don't allow her the power, but make her think she has it b/c you are giving her chioces (which you choose, so the power is yours). Good luck Momma.
AHHHH. My 3 yo goes in waves of blatant disrespect. I have to SAY: "STOP FIGHTING WITH ME, EVERYTHING I SAY." I just have to remind her... It works here.
Quoting bhwrn1:
Give choices. You can go to the bathroom or you can go to bed. Guess which one she'll pick. I have been having the same problem with my 3 y/o (turned 3 in Nov). He is constantly doing this. In the last few days I have decided not to allow him that power. I give a choice: that is dirty, if you touch it you will go to bed, if not, you'll get to watch your show (or have a snack or whatever). Don't allow her the power, but make her think she has it b/c you are giving her chioces (which you choose, so the power is yours). Good luck Momma.
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For me, saying this does nothing. I don't think he fully understands what he is doing all the time. I think he just thinks it's fun and funny. Now, how to teach them that it's not!
Quoting AM-BRAT:AHHHH. My 3 yo goes in waves of blatant disrespect. I have to SAY: "STOP FIGHTING WITH ME, EVERYTHING I SAY." I just have to remind her... It works here.
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Just follow thorugh with what you are saying and ignore her. Once she realizes that certain things are not negotiable, and that life is much more comfortable when she does agree with you on somethings (like going to the potty, rather than sitting around having to pee or wetting herself), she'll settle down
Quoting TempestRayne:
Just follow thorugh with what you are saying and ignore her. Once she realizes that certain things are not negotiable, and that life is much more comfortable when she does agree with you on somethings (like going to the potty, rather than sitting around having to pee or wetting herself), she'll settle down
This was my thought
like others have said don't give in, and I also agree with the time outs. We use them for every age(we have 2, we put our nephews in time out when they are here too) it seems to hit the point and if they continue then you continue. In the end they realize and give up.
You could try that too. Just walk away. Far away lol.
Quoting CrazedMomof2:
I think its to get attention. I would just ignore it and see if that helps.......
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on Mar. 22, 2010 at 9:48 AM