Do you find it is hard to raise positive kids in a mean society?

[elvir2babes]

Everyone has had different experiences, but let's face it we live in a pretty mean and selfish world.

I find it is hard and a big struggle to keep trying to be positive myself, how do you keep yourself positive?

How do you try to not show negativity in front of your kids?

 

Especially with all the peer pressure they are facing now??? 

[AM-BRAT]

So far it's easy to deal with stuff situation by situation, they are young and always with me. Once they have more outer influences, I just don't know...

[AM-BRAT]

We ARE very conscious of not fighting or arguing around the kids. That's rare anyway though. The kids see us work stuff out amicably.

[bhwrn1]

It's hard. I just try to take a deep breath and put on a smile. I hate when they encounter negativity and I have to turn that around. They are young and should be able to stay innocent for so much longer than they do!

[Bmat]

Yes.  While I was still their major influence, they were positive people, but once in school they had to learn to be tough.

[singlemomof2nok]

 It is hard not to show negativity, if I do I will apologize and say I shouldn't have said that ect.  If I hear them being negative, I try to correct them and have them say something positive instead

[Stefono]

This is very much a reality.I still do my best to teach them right from wrong, I still tell them not to put their hands on others, I still tell them treat others the way you want to be treated.

 Do I have days when I want to tell one of them to punch the other child out, damn strait I do, I'm human & I don't want anyone to hurt my babies"whatever age they are, they're my babies) But I also teach myself to see the 'glass half full', & to stay away from people who bring me/ you down. I believe in dreams,still, I teach them to be brave not stupid & polite not arrogant.They all have manners if others choose to NOT teach their children the basics well I think that will come back on them, their children are not my problem.Some days are harder than others but not everyday is supposed to be a pic-nic. Life in a nut shell is what we make it, I guess that's the biggest lesson of all. 

[SpiritFortress]

Bump for tomorrow! :)

[TiaraMom19]

 Hi,I have a tween and a teen.It is next to impossible to keep the negativity away.I do my best to keep our home a safe,secure,and loving place.I do my best to stay spiritual,upbeat and focused.

~Tia

[GINSMUM123]

I try to find comedy in everything I see as unfair or absurdly negative I try to shelter myself and child from insidious monstrosities and just imagine better things, fantasize we are all proper and good bur hide from the strange beasts lurking in public.

[devante9901]

 I am a really positive person. My kid is all high-drama, and seems to always expect the worst, and she reacts to the worst possibility before anythng even happens. Like the latest... she tried out for a play and thought her friend did better, so my girl flipped out and was angry for HOURS because she was positive her friend would get a better part.

And when they did get parts, my girl got TWO parts, including a speaking part, and her friend only got a small non-speaking part.

The rest of the story is... my daughter has always loved doing plays with this group, but now because her friend says "Acting is boring" - my daughter is parroting her and being negative about the play. Sigh.

I did ask the other girl's mother to talk to her about her attitude, and I talked to the other little girl myself, and said, "Isabelle has always loved being in plays. If you don't like it, talk to your mom and quit, but please don't ruin it for my kid."

I don't know what else to do.

I think it's very hard to raise a positive kid, when so many kids are negative and sarcastic. Sigh.