I'm a young mom of 3 kids. Ds 8, ds 4, dd 14 months. Im a SAHM and actually this fall we plan on homeschooling. But here's the dealio, here lately I feel like I cannot control my kids. Well I guess my boys. My oldest especially is soooo whiny and is always comparing himself to others and what they have and what he doesn't. My 4 yr/old takes his ques from big bubba. Though not as bad. He still just doesn't listen. If i ask them to clean, i.e., ds1 will help but ds2 won't. He messes around or whatever, he's lazy.
So I have a hardworking whiny one (ds1), and an outgoing affectionate lazy one (ds2) , and a VERY demanding 14 month old little girl.
I want them to be happy, content, grateful, kind, selfless, etc. Idk if its me or the age, but they used to be sooo easy!!
Though education is a big reason we're going to homeschool its not the only reason. I want to focus on their HEARTS. I've been looking into character building books, and their actual school curriculum will be Christian based. I'm constintant in taking them to church, about talking about God. I am trying my hardest to raise good people here who will be productive members in society! I just feel like I'm falling apart. My hubby is gone 6 days a wk, I have no family support, and today especially I can't handle the boys fighting.
What do I do???? How do I parent positively????
HELP!!!! :(
you are deff not alone i have a 4 yr od who does not listen and does as she pleases and eve though i take stuff away and give her time outs it does not phase her and my 17 mnth old is picking up her habits....i do yell alot and im trying to stop and its hard but i have learned as frustrateing as it is consistancy is also important....dont make empty threats.....so far its working..good luck and welcome to the group
you are deff not alone i have a 4 yr od who does not listen and does as she pleases and eve though i take stuff away and give her time outs it does not phase her and my 17 mnth old is picking up her habits....i do yell alot and im trying to stop and its hard but i have learned as frustrateing as it is consistancy is also important....dont make empty threats.....so far its working..good luck and welcome to the group
[/qDiscipline is definitely my weakness! Its hard for me to follow through but yeah, guess I REALLY need to be more consistant. I'm just so overwhelmed, I want to cry. As we speak, ds2 is jumping off the couch, ds1 says I don't love him. And I'm so exhausted ; I feel as if I have nothing more to give! And that's not like me - I LOVE being a mom!!!
Aww, hang in there mama. You have to be consistent. Lay down ground rules and stick to them. Be very clear when going over them with your kids. No means no and don't be a push over. If you break your kids will know that and take advantage of you.
Quoting Meltopia529:Aww, hang in there mama. You have to be consistent. Lay down ground rules and stick to them. Be very clear when going over them with your kids. No means no and don't be a push over. If you break your kids will know that and take advantage of you.
What are appropriate consequences to their actions? I never know.
I homeschool my oldest DS (11), and this past year sent my DD (6) to public school for grade 1. It was more my hubby's choice than my own. But it works. I also have a very demanding/clingy 11 month old.
I have my days where I wonder what has gotten into my kids...and they seem to be out of control. But I do agree that homeschooling is great for making compassionate, loving children.
Your kids will need to know that you are completely in charge. Give kids a choice. Do this or that, there is no other choice. Use stars or pennies for rewards and don't forget to enforce consequences. You can't let the kids run the household. Once they know this it gets easier. I wish you the best! It is very rewarding and I hope you love it as much as I do.
Time outs, take things away, and if its really bad ground them. I know its tuff, but it has to be done. I tell my 18 month old that I am not his friend, but when hes 18 years old I can be. Harsh, maybe...I think of it as tough love.
Quoting theirmommy04:
Quoting Meltopia529:
Aww, hang in there mama. You have to be consistent. Lay down ground rules and stick to them. Be very clear when going over them with your kids. No means no and don't be a push over. If you break your kids will know that and take advantage of you.
What are appropriate consequences to their actions? I never know.
Link to pampers site. Great article that talks about time outs and how to make them work.
http://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-tools/positive-discipline/Parenting-Strong-Willed-Child
Parenting a srtong willed child. Yep, I have one too!
http://imom.com/parenting/tweens/parenting/training/21-creative-consequences/
Creative consequences...some really great ideas to correct bad behavior.
Hope some of these help you!
Quoting Meltopia529:
Link to pampers site. Great article that talks about time outs and how to make them work.
http://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-tools/positive-discipline/Parenting-Strong-Willed-Child
Parenting a srtong willed child. Yep, I have one too!
http://imom.com/parenting/tweens/parenting/training/21-creative-consequences/
Creative consequences...some really great ideas to correct bad behavior.
Hope some of these help you!
Thank you very much!
Proverbs 10:29
- theirmommy04
on May. 1, 2012 at 5:45 PM