I am a new mother to a 3 month baby boy and I may have made the worst mistake you can make by holding my baby all the time. Everyone gets onto me about it and I have even had family to tell me that even though I can't get anything done now, it will only get worse. They have said that eventually I should expect my son to take tantrums in the store when he gets older, if he does not get his way. I think that is my worse fear. I want my son to understand that I love him but also respect when I say no. So now I am trying to figure out how do I correct this mistake. I have only hurt myself because I don't get anything done around the house in the evening, because I am having to hold the baby all evening and he sleeps on my chest because I was so afraid he would stop breathing while i was sleep and I would not know, so I kept him on my chest so I would know all of his needs during the night. Now at night I will get up and put him in his swing in the living room and I will sleep on the coach, next to him, so I can sleep on my side and try and break him from sleeping with me. One good thing is he loves his bed but because it is so far away from my bedroom I am afraid to leave him in his room. But what do I do to break him from needing to be held all the time? I hate to let him cry and I read that it is not healthy to just let them cry for long periods of time. But right now I may just have to get some tissue for him and me and tough it out. Please help.