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Have you ever felt that being a mom was boring?

Posted by on Jul. 9, 2012 at 7:24 AM
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Being a Mom Is Boring

Posted by Jeanne Sager on June 29, 2012 

yawnSomething tells me mom and writer Julie Cook is about to get a lot of hate mail. She came out this week in the British tabloid the Daily Mail with a story about the drudgery of motherhood. The headline? "I love my son, but being a mother bores me."

G'head and hate on her ladies -- plenty of people already are -- but I'm not joining you. For one, I doubt Cook even wrote the provocative headline (little writer's secret here: often we don't). For another? I happen to agree with her.

Motherhood, especially early motherhood, is awfully boring.

Of course, I need to put in a little disclaimer here. I love my daughter to pieces, just the way that Cook probably loves her son.

But let me give you a picture of the first few months of her life:

She slept. She cried. She ate. She pooped in her diaper. She cried. She ate. She slept.

Did I mention she ate, slept, and pooped? Oh right, and cried.

She cried because she wanted to eat. She cried because she wanted to sleep. She cried because she'd pooped.

Don't get me wrong: I was very busy during the first year of my daughter's life what with all the feeding and diaper changing and trying to make her stop crying. I was happy, even, to finally have this little bundle of tears and poop in my arms.

But that doesn't mean it was interesting. In fact, I have a theory of sorts about the "watching paint dry is more exhilarating" quality of early motherhood. It's boring for a reason.

The boring same old same old is about all a mom can handle when she hasn't had a full night's sleep in six months. That's right, we need boring. The eat, sleep, poop, cry, later, rinse, repeat routine is something we can do in our sleep ... or would if we actually got any. If you really think about it, it's safer this way. We know what we're doing, and we can handle it. When things get exciting, they also get scary. I don't like scary ... do you?

The good news for all moms, even Julie Cook? Life with a 7-year-old is never boring. They don't actually shut up long enough for you to snooze off.

So be honest, does Julie Cook's confession really sound that shocking to you? Were you bored?

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Kirsti44
by on Jul. 9, 2012 at 7:43 AM
No, I think she's right. My four-month-old sleeps eighteen hours a day. My days are boring!
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SabrinaLC
by on Jul. 9, 2012 at 7:49 AM

She's right.

Plus doing the same thing all day everyday (no matter what age the kids are) can get kinda boring.

Delirium003
by on Jul. 9, 2012 at 8:20 AM
I agree with her!

I have 3 boys (8, 4,& 9months). The first year with each of them is (was) boring. Now that the older two have more of their own personalities, likes, and dislikes...my life has turned a bit crazier. :-p
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Delirium003
by on Jul. 9, 2012 at 8:22 AM
Lucky! Lol

My kids never slept in long spurts until they were way older. My youngest is finally sleeping 5-6 hour sessions at night.


Quoting Kirsti44:

No, I think she's right. My four-month-old sleeps eighteen hours a day. My days are boring!
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ceciliam
by on Jul. 9, 2012 at 10:00 AM

I don't remember feeling bored, at all. If she was so bored, she could have found something productive to do.

ele2837
by on Jul. 9, 2012 at 10:00 AM
I wouldn't bash anyone for saying that but I have never felt bored as a mother.
Mrs.Kubalabuku
by on Jul. 9, 2012 at 10:16 AM
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My older son is 4, and his favorites bore me to tears.  Play the SAME GAME day after day, watch the SAME MOVIE day after day, hear the SAME JOKE, day after day...It goes on.  What can I say?  My son THRIVES repetition!  When I buy him a new toy or movie or game, I ask myself "How long will I be able to handle doing this ALL DAY, EVERY DAY?"

Of course, I don't let my son see this.  I force the smile, have my toy dinorsuar say "ROAR!  I'm going to chase you now!" 100x with the same enthusiasm, make popcorn and talk about my favorite scene in "Rudolph The Red-Nosed Reindeer" claymation version while he gets the DVD going.  (Never mind that it's July and we've been watching this movies since Halloween.)  Say "Soooorrrrrryyyyy" in that drawn out way that makes him giggle a million times a week.  But someday, when I want to go to a musuem and he wants to go jet skiing or something, I might just remind him of these times!

My younger son is 3.5 months, and he can be pretty boring, too.  When he's awake it's a flurry of nursing, diapers, coos, kicking his feet, and then ZAP!  He's asleep for a few hours.  At least it gives me time to contemplate buying "Trouble" for DS1.  It's simple, will help him learn to count, but can I REALLY listen to that die popping all the time?

Then again, my 4 y/o tells me I'm boring whenever I need to do something other than play dino-chase, Sorry, Rudolph, etc.

Motherhood as a whole boring?  I can't agree with that.  There's a constant flurry of activity, even if it is the same activity day in and day out.  There's the constant need to plan your child's next step in life, whether it's when to buy summer shoes or take the training wheels off the bike, or something more serious like which schools to have him attend or homeschool. 

Plenty of boring times as a Mother?  That, I can totally see!

AngeLnChainZ
by on Jul. 9, 2012 at 10:22 AM

My son has always been a "challenging" keep you on your toes kind of kid, so, no i've never really had the "boring" aspect of parenting However! things can get repetetive and drive me bonkers but I wouldn't ever say it was boring.

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amy7243
by on Jul. 9, 2012 at 10:27 AM

 sometimes.. when you are doing the same thing every day

lga1965
by on Jul. 9, 2012 at 10:30 AM
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 No, not at all. Never. I am always really surprised when I see Moms at CM say they are "bored"by anything, even when it has nothing to do with motherhood. I don't see how anyone could be "bored" with life. You are alive, you have things to see, books to read, music to listen to, people to listen to, places to go. I am never bored. Babies,toddlers,kids are never boring. Just looking at a baby sleeping is miraculous.

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