My cousin (I grew up w like a baby sister) is married w 1 step daughter 1 bio daughter and ready to have another baby next week both of her kids are her dh's. Here is the kicker.... the step daughter is in a foster home and has been for a year..the court questions she had been molested by someone either bio mom or my cousins dh or friends..... so far getting the child 3 back home has been impossible!
Now she's a week away from delivering another baby w a 2 yr old at home. I've never been in a nastier house (yes I've helped her clean it multiple times last time I cleaned 58 hours) it still gets trashed! I have tried to help her w money... for a year she doesn't want help. Neither parent works..actually they both refuse and are on welfare.
She calls last week and tells me they are broke they get 800 dollars on the 5th and in 3 days they are flat broke for the month... I told her I didn't have any extra $$ this month. And then she tells me they have fleas in the house from the dog and they are biting her and dd2 while they sleep...tjen she says they have had them a month and haven't done anything about it...then she says they have had lice for 2 weeks also....
What do I do? No baby or children should live through any of this! Should I just turn my head and hand over $$ or should I brake down and call dss?
I suggest you call CPS fleas can carry many diseases and are the biggest suspect in spreading the Black Plague so imagine they could possibly carry MRSA, and many other things. A newborn could become anemic from flea bites too. I have seen it working with abused and neglected children. I am not saying call only because of fleas either, the disregard of keeping a clean place suggests the baby will not be in healthy living enviroments either.
There is a difference between helping and enabling. Helping is once or twice, enabling is letting allowing them to continue using you. If it was me I'd say no more and like the other ladies said call CPS. As much as you want to help those kids, you can't fix it for them if their parents don't care.
i would tell your cousin that cps will take them from her if she doesnt do anything about the living conditions...the fleas are bad this year....we have 2 INDOOR cats and have been battleing them for months with dips...sprays..collars ect....nothing will kil them.....but sit down and talk to her...
I don't think giving her money is going to solve any of her problems. At least not long term. It sounds like she needs more help then you can give her. I know it would be hard, but I would probably call CPS too and have them go check out the house. My biggest concern would be the safety and well being of those children. They are the helpless ones. Your cousin can fend for herself. Someone needs to be their voice if they are in a bad situation. Good luck! :)
I would try your very best to help her. Perhaps help her find home remedies for both the lice and the fleas? Have a heart to heart with her, and tell her its not acceptable to have her little ones in such a messy house. Tell her that you love her, and that youre only telling her this because of that fact.
I should also mention.. if youve already done the above.. its time to let professionals step in. She needs a wake up call to know that allowing her children to be in squaler isnt a good decision.
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- Bluetick
on Aug. 11, 2012 at 11:48 AM