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Ch-Ch-Ch-Changes

Posted by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 12:00 AM
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I started taking ballet class when I was seven years old. It was a light hearted, fun way to spend an afternoon or two. Somewhere around the age of ten, I decided that I wanted to be a professional ballet dancer. At twelve I began to take pointe class, and began to take class every day. By the age of fourteen, I was taking two and three classes a day, rehearsing for hours on the weekend and my entire life revolved around the dance studio. 

My feet were a wreck, my time at home non existent, and I lived in leotards and tights. I had more of a relationship with my dance teacher than just about anyone else in my life. I was really happy. I would dream for hours about the future. I'd get out of high school, move to New York City and dance with one of the big ballet companies. I'd be a member of the corps de ballet, then a soloist and then a principal dancer - and I'd be famous.

I forgot to take into account the body type with which I have been blessed. Ballet dancers are tall, thin, almost skeletal. They have no curves, no fluff, and most especially no breasts. I come from a family well endowed with both upper and lower padding. It was never in the cards for me to have a ballet dancer type body, not even if I starved myself. No matter how many master classes or auditions I attended, I heard the same advice - lose some weight. Never mind that my it was my body type to have curves - there was no way I'd ever realize my dream of being a professional ballet dancer.

When I finally realized this, I was devastated.

These days, I still love to dance, but I'm more often found on the dance floor with my favorite band or in a Zumba class - both areas in which no one cares that I have curves and padding. I dance all around my house on a daily basis and have dance offs on the Wii with my kids. I would love to go back to a ballet class, I still practice the turns and steps in the privacy of my house - but I think that my ballet dancing days are long gone.

That's not to say that I'm not happy in my life - on the contrary, if I'd become that ballet dancer I'd planned to be so long ago, I would have never met my husband or had my children. I'd be living a much different life. I don't regret the choices I made - I'm happy with who I've become.

Who were you back in middle school? In high school? Are you where you thought you'd be? What were the kinds of things that mattered to you? Do you find that they've changed?

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by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 12:00 AM
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TroyboysMom
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 3:53 AM

In middle school and high school, I was definitely different than who I am now. I realize now how important certain things are - how fleeting life is (being widowed at 23 will do that to you.) and can be. In high school I was shy, sheltered and innocent. I was very much a book worm and a student (I still am a book worm and a student, but I've branched out in terms of reading). I was way more idealistic then, too.

mamivon2
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 8:37 AM

I was the shy one, hardly had friends type of kid.. I did play the electric organ for almost 6years

goddess99
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 8:52 AM

I'm in a very different place than I wanted to be back then. Everything changed for me but I'm happy with everything.

momkaribg
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 8:58 AM

 I am very different now. I am happy with my life.

alliesmom112
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 9:07 AM

I was definitely a different person now then then I am now. Never did I think I would be a stay at home mom and be happy about that. My priorities have changed drastically just in the last 4 years since I had my dd.

natesmom1228
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 9:11 AM

In elementary school I was not a nice person. I had no friends and hated just about everyone.

I moved out of the city to the country in middle school and became 100% better then what I was. I got involved with cheerleading and had a great outlet for my energy and anger.

High school was great. I had great friends, most of whom I am still friends with. I was able to come and go as I pleased.

 

Madelaine
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 10:20 AM

I was shy and very introverted in middle school.  I am now much more outgoing !

ceciliam
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 10:35 AM

I was just a normal kid that did normal kid things.

Audreesmommy757
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 10:41 AM

i was in a world of my own...i was bullied and picked on and tormented in school...it was a really hard time...

MamaBear2cubs
by Bronze Member on Sep. 12, 2012 at 10:57 AM

In school I was always the outcast. I am still oretty introverted lol.

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