DD with selective mutism, how long do you think she should have to do this?
DD started kindergarten 3 weeks ago and two weeks into it I get a note from the teacher saying that she isn't following the directions, and she is not doing her work in class or she was looking at the other kid's work and then doing hers or messing with her supplies. I went in the next day and asked her when she started doing this, well she had been doing it since school started....I thought it was kinda weird that the teacher didn't speak up sooner so we could talk about this at home. All the work she was sending home had smiley faces on them or good job or stickers so I thought everything was fine. So they sat her at a table by herself last week on friday, and she did totally fine, did her work correctly on her own, didn't mess with her supplies, and followed the directions and I got the same report for monday, but she came home and told my mom that she had to sit by herself and didn't look happy about it.
DD has had a lot of issues since her father left to serve overseas, he has been in S.Korea for the last 18 months and I have had a lot of behavioral issues with her and she is in counseling for this. The psychologist we are seeing diagnosed DD with selective mutism just the week before she started school and I asked if this would be a problem for her in school and she said that it would. DD doesn't always speak when spoken to, and in pre-k it took her a while to get used to it and I am assuming that it will take her a while to get used to her new school also.
I don't want DD to feel like she is being segregated from the others because she thinks she is in trouble, I don't want it to depress her further than what she already is, but it seems that it helps her to get her work done. I am just frustrated I guess because she didn't act this way in preschool and with everything else that has been going on with her I just am clueless as to what to do to help her because she won't always respond to me and the psychologist told me she shouldn't be punished when she doesn't talk to me. But what the hell do you do, I don't want her to fall behind because she isn't understanding the work and she just won't tell me that she doesn't understand.
Her being by herself at a table is all fine until she starts to think she is in trouble and then I have a feeling she will start to negatively respond to sitting by herself all the time. We don't have a appointment for 2 weeks with her psychologist so its going to be a while before I can talk about this with her. What would you all do, I am just at a loss to know what to do and DD's psychologist is on vacation for 2 weeks so I cannot call her and talk to her about this right now.
Has anyone else have a child that has been diagnoised with selective mutism?