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First Time Motherhood and The Lessons We Learn

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Oh, boy. Being a first time mom is awesome and great and so so spectacular - but it's also a steep learning curve for most of us. No matter how many books we read, how much babysitting we do, how many faux pregnancies and "egg babies" we care for in school - there's something life changing about actually becoming a mom yourself. There are some lessons for which all of the reading and baby sitting in the world cannot prepare you.

I learned, early on:

  • To overestimate my time by double. If I thought I'd need an hour to get somewhere, I'd better plan on two.
  • To never ever ever go without a diaper bag.
  • And to make sure that the diaper bag was completely stocked - many, many times I needed to change a diaper, only to find a bag of wet cloth diapers and no fresh ones.
  • To pack the ar with extra wipes and a spare shirt for myself - I never knew when i'd need a fresh shirt
  • To make dinner whenever I had a spare moment - even if that was 10 a.m.
  • And to always, always use the bathroom before I left the house - even if I didn't think I need to do so 

I learned so much in those early months and years. I also learned that it wasn't wise or smart to judge another mother for making different choices, because she was quite possibly doing the very best that she could. My circumstances are much different than other mothers, and my judgemental thoughts and actions didn't always present me in the best light. I regret that now.

I don't regret spending lots and lots of time with my babies, though.

Tell us about your early experiences as a first-time mom. What were your favorite things about your experience? What would you have changed?

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by on Oct. 3, 2012 at 12:00 AM
Replies (11-20):
natesmom1228
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:30 AM

I love all those listed. I actually had 2 diapers bags. I left one in my moms car just in case it had something in it that I didn't have in mine.

momkaribg
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:40 AM
I agree with these
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BabyTeki
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:47 AM
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I always packed the diaper bag for a full day so I was always prepared in case plans changed while we were out.
Take as much time cuddle time with your baby as you can. Laundry and dishes will be there, but babies grow way too fast to waste any time
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jessicasmom1
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:54 AM

Yes, I have learned these as well, never wake a sleeping baby, and nap while they sleep who knows the next time you will get some much needed rest

jessicasmom1
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:55 AM

oh they sure do! 

Quoting BabyTeki:

I always packed the diaper bag for a full day so I was always prepared in case plans changed while we were out.
Take as much time cuddle time with your baby as you can. Laundry and dishes will be there, but babies grow way too fast to waste any time


.Angelica.
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:58 AM
I learned that with babies sometimes you just have to go with it. Babies like to make their own schedules and also change up the routine from time to time. Also keeping a well packed diaper bag is a must.
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Samanthamommy
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:58 AM

It was OK to give myself a break if I became overwhelmed.

Samanthamommy
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:58 AM

I agree!

Quoting .Angelica.:

I learned that with babies sometimes you just have to go with it. Babies like to make their own schedules and also change up the routine from time to time. Also keeping a well packed diaper bag is a must.


Samanthamommy
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:59 AM

I agree

Quoting gacgbaker:

I think the biggest thing I learned as a mom was to not pile my plate with too much- it's hard as a mom not to do that, but by taking things off and making sure you have plenty of 'buffer' time to do things and just enjoy them not rush through them, you enjoy your kids much more.


Samanthamommy
by on Oct. 5, 2012 at 11:59 AM

Yes!!

Quoting LuvingRN:

I learned those listed along with sleep when the baby sleeps!!


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