Whatever happened to "just being nice?"
My husband and I have always been very blessed. Don't get me wrong, blessed does not mean life has always been easy and it has just been one big happy fest. I just mean that we are extremely fortunate and we want to teach our kids to work hard and have a generous heart. So....
Yesterday, a large crate was delivered with about 50 very large pumpkins to my husbands business. He let all of his employees take as many as they wanted and he even set aside a few for his secretaries who weren't at work on a Sunday. He brought the rest home and let the boys decide what to do with them. The first thing my 4 year old wanted to do was load up his wagon and deliver to our neighbors. We were so happy with this choice that the boys immediately got to work.
I am appalled that our neighbors, who we have a GREAT relationship with, reacted so oddly. My husband said that everyone asked "how much do we owe you?" or "Why are giving away pumpkins?" or "Is this a school project? What are you doing? What am I going to owe you??" (that one was really weird)
Whatever happened to just smiling and saying thank you?!? Seriously, do you really think a 4 year old and 2 year old have an ulterior motive? They just wanted to be nice! This is not a one time reaction either. We have a large garden and always give away the vegetables that we can't eat and people always want to pay us for it. My friend asked if I still had my potty chair (my 2 year old is already in underwear) and if she could buy it from me. Really? Buy a used potty chair from a friend....WEIRD! She almost acted offended when I said she could just have it, plus the two toilet inserts.
Am I the odd one here or has society really become that jaded that simply generosity is questioned?