i grew up with spankings and alot of the older generation say "spanking is parenting" but what does a spank really solve? i learned how to scrunch my butt cheeks together to not make it hurt and just got it over with. I think spanking isn't the way to go. talking to your child, time-outs, and a child's personal consequences are much better than physical punishments. it just teaches them to hit other kids, or worse younger kids than them! and it's not cool to have another parent go up to you and say "your kid hit my kid" the circle of violence should never start with your own kids.
Quoting BellaLoca:i grew up with spankings and alot of the older generation say "spanking is parenting" but what does a spank really solve? i learned how to scrunch my butt cheeks together to not make it hurt and just got it over with. I think spanking isn't the way to go. talking to your child, time-outs, and a child's personal consequences are much better than physical punishments. it just teaches them to hit other kids, or worse younger kids than them! and it's not cool to have another parent go up to you and say "your kid hit my kid" the circle of violence should never start with your own kids.
I think if one were to spank thier children they would just be teaching them to hit others when they aren't getting what they want from from another person.. Wether it be a kid is teasing the child or just not listening and/or doing what the child who is and/or has been spanked wants...
For example...
My brother spanked his son in front of my son once... His son hit my son... Then my brother got in his sons face, spanked him, and told him not to hit people.... The look of confusion on the poor kids face... Needless to say the child learned nothing from it... Other than, like his dad, when he dosen't get his way, hit!
We as parents are here to teach or children how to deal with emotions in a constructive manner. What if we all just went around hitting one another when we weren't getting our way or were mad & frustrated?
No good....
Now, that doesn't go without saying that there hasn't been time where I've wanted too spank my boys....
My kids are also very polite, respectful, compassionate, and kind...
My nieces and nephew don't get spanked (my siblings only ever saw the abuse side, so they don't spank) and their kids will do great in time out, but once out they hit, bite, kick, call names, don't listen.. My 7 year old niece called my 3 yr old a b!tc#..
My method works best for me.. Everyone knows what works best for their kids and their families..
Luke 10:25-29
- ADPIAKCMAMI
on Oct. 4, 2012 at 10:32 AM