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We're Not Scared of Anything!

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Night time terrors. The BoogeyMan. The doll eyes following your every movement. The haunted house, the dark, the monsters.

Being afraid goes hand in hand with being little. Take being afraid of the dark, for example. I have six kids, so it seems like we've been sleeping with night lights on in our house since Moses was a baby - in fact, I'm not sure I could even sleep in complete darkness any more - although it sure would be super nice to try, wouldn't it?

My kids, like most kids, have been afraid of the dark. They've also been afraid of other, more random things. Clowns, for instance. That apple doesn't fall far from the tree, though - both my husband and I don't like clowns. For me, it goes back to a long ago, late night reading by flashlight of a better-left-unnamed Stephen King book.One of my children reports that she pulled her Barbie DreamHouse in front of her closet every night - for several years - because of the movie Monsters, Inc. No matter what I say, do or show - it seems like there's nothing you can do to get rid of the childhood fears. 

One of my friends bought a lightly scented room spray with a pump. She removed the label and created a duplicate, with the words "Monster Spray". She spritzed the room every night before her child went to bed, and told him that the lavender scent kept monsters away. Another friend allowed her child to sleep with a flashlight. The cost of batteries twice a month was a small one that ensured her son would sleep. 

Ask your child why he's afraid of something. Chances are, he won't be able to tell you exactly why - and maybe you can reassure him and help him get over it. Don't ever try to minimize your child's fears. No matter how trivial or banal, to your child those fears are as big as the Empire State building.

How do you help your child manage his or her fears? How do you keep those fears from overwhelming your child, keep them from becoming much more than simple, childish concerns?


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by on Oct. 24, 2012 at 12:00 AM
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manifer_momma
by on Oct. 24, 2012 at 10:46 PM
They have a night light Ans their favorite plush animal to "guard" them.
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Bob192
by on Oct. 24, 2012 at 11:05 PM

I try to talk to them about why they are afraid and explain to them that I am there to keep them safe. I also help them come up with a plan to help them feel safe.

Kainalu55
by on Oct. 25, 2012 at 5:57 AM

i talk to them and encourage them to talk to me.

mrswillie
by on Oct. 25, 2012 at 6:39 AM

It has been a long time since mine were younger. I really don't remember.

midnightcow49
by on Oct. 25, 2012 at 10:20 AM

my son is scared of the dark, so when he has to go into a room to turn on the light, i am usually within sight of him and i will keep talking to him to help him get through his fears, and let him know that i can still see and hear him talking to me, and it seems to be getting better for him to venture into the other rooms when it is dark, i also have nightlights on in bathroom, not just for him, but for myself as well so i can see through the night, one in the kitchen as well to see, and i leave my TV on in my room to have light and sound, on low volume as well......this is how jeremiah's mom, deals with the dark issues in our lives everynight.......brenda.......

SabrinaLC
by on Oct. 26, 2012 at 8:58 AM

We talk about it

sweetlyblissful
by on Oct. 27, 2012 at 11:41 PM
Nightlights
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sweetlyblissful
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sweetlyblissful
by on Oct. 27, 2012 at 11:41 PM
talking about it
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sweetlyblissful
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