Positive parenting helps our kids by....
Disciplining children by spanking does not facilitate learning. Instead, it may halt the unwanted behavior only while the child is in the adult’s presence, or it may scare a child into submission. While it may teach a child what not to do, it fails to teach a child what is expected of him or her and what is an alternate behavior. Additionally, physical discipline is most often used when the parent is frustrated or without other resource. Spanking in these circumstances may lead to an unintentional injury or more serious abuse. The following illustrate more of what physical discipline does:
Increases anxiety and fear
Hinders the development of empathy and compassion for others
Makes children angry in response
Heightens aggression toward others
Decreases compliance and increases resistance
Harms relationship with parent or caregiver
Potentially causes unintended and severe physical injury
Increases the probability for an array of undesirable social and psychological behaviors
Teaches that violence is an acceptable way to handle conflict
How can I discipline positively?
American Humane encourages parents and other caregivers to use techniques that constitute a positive and appropriate discipline of children, such as:
Discipline with love
Listen and communicate
Focus on the behavior, not the child
Relate the discipline to the offending behavior in duration and severity
Do not harm or injure
Make it a learning opportunity
Develop rules and expectations in advance
Reward or praise desirable behaviors
Model desired behavior
Encourage the child’s cooperation and understanding
Develop behavioral contracts and incentive charts
What else can I do?
Be a role model. This can help you teach your children appropriate behavior, self-control, responsibility, and accountability, while increasing their self-esteem. If you need help managing your own behavior or want to learn better parenting techniques, contact your local child protective services agency, community center, church, physician, mental health facility, or school for a referral or assistance.
How do you feel positive parenting is helping your children?