I've been a Cafe member for a while now, but I've not posted or been actively involved for many months due to ongoing family issues. My husband has been very ill for a long time and is now trying to regain his health in a nursing home. His Dr. said that if he doesn't work harder to get a handle of his diabetes he only gives him 6 months to a year to live. We've been married for 33 years and he is my best friend. Due to his illness we have lost so much and I am under tremendous stress all the time. However, this is not what I am here for today. I have three amazing grandsons ages 10, 6 and 3. They are beautiful, funny and incredibly smart. Their mom, my daughter, is an amazing woman. She is my hero and she makes me want to be a better person. Her oldest has been having some difficult issues, is seeing a therapist and is on medication. He has been diagnosed with ADHD, depression and abandonment isssues. More recently they are checking him for Thought Disorder - a very complicated and difficult illness. Now her youngest is being checked for possible low level autism and or Aspergers Syndrome. I have always been actively involved in their lives and babysit them while my daughter works, finished college and volunteers. Up until about a year and a half ago I was a pretty good grandma. Never spanked and barely raised my voice when problems arose. As I said I have been under tremendous stress and now have taken to yelling - a lot - when the two older boys are acting up and fighting - really fighting. This has only served to further complicate the situation. I am now trying to get myself in check in order to keep from doing more harm. I was wondering if any one else has had similar issues and could offer any advice to help me and ultimately my grandsons. I would also like to know - on a lighter note - if any one has suggestions for crafts and activites that would interest this diverse group of boys. I am on a limited budget but I have lots of craft supplies. I have found in the past that the women involved in Cafe Mom have been incredibly supportive and helpful so I am reaching out to you again instead of trying to do this all on my own which I am clearly not able to do. Thank you so much for taking the time to hear me out. Peace.