For the past 2-3 weeks my 2.5 yr old has been swinging, throwing things, telling us he's going to "spank our butts," etc. Not to mention screaming EVERYTHING he says all the time. I TRY very hard not to spank because I see this as a vicious cycle. He thinks it's okay to hit when he's spanked. I mean, duh. DH disagrees. He thinks he's getting away with these things because I'm not spanking him. I see a VERY clear connection to an increase in his behavior when he's spanked. But honestly he is pushing me to my limits. Screaming, throwing toys at me, telling me "NO! It's NOT YOURS!" If I take things away from him. I've been a sahm pretty much his whole life. I was working part time for awhile (mainly in the evenings when DH was home.) until the store I was working at closed down. Since then I've been home full time. I don't want to put him in daycare but I'm afraid I'm going to snap if we don't get this problem worked out pretty soon. Not to mention it's putting a strain on my relationship with dh because of the disagreement in approach.
Everyone says, "Don't spank." Okay, fine. But I need some alternatives. I've tried time out (he won't stay put), taking "quiet time" in his room, taking away toys, etc. Nothing seems to have any impact on him. I'm at a loss. Help.