Why do so many women choose to be an ignorant parent?
I don't understand why so many women in general as well as here on CM choose to be largely or even completely ignorant when it comes to parenting. If you have a baby then you have a responsibility to educate yourself about parenting and child development to be best able to help that child achieve healthy, happy and responsible adulthood. It seems to me that many of them simply do not have any understanding of child development and then are surprised when their child approaches two and they haven't a clue as to how to parent that two-year-old. Then there are the ones with four and five-year-olds that have done no research into schooling, etc.
Am I the only one that believes that when we have children we have an obligation, I would say a sacred one, to be the very best parents we can be? I'm not saying anyone is, or should be expected to be a "perfect" mother but when someone has a two-year-old and is asking questions here on CM for which even a bit of very cursory research would supply answers, what exactly is their problem? I am not referring here to someone seeking the advice or input of other mothers for reference, or help in the moment, or when despite their best efforts they are having a specific problem or a disagreement in how to parent with a partner or their own parent. What I am addressing, for instance, is someone with a child approaching the age of two that had absolutely no idea what this phase means in terms of the growth and development in a human child and then they have the nerve to complain about the "terrible twos" as though it's their child's fault that they didn't bother to learn anything at all to help them to help their child through the challenge of the transition from infancy to toddlerhood.