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10 Ways Working Moms Can Kiss the Guilt Goodbye

Posted by on Sep. 24, 2013 at 3:10 PM
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by Jeanne Sager

Most of the time, I love being a working mom. I work because it puts food on our table (and in my daughter's belly), but also because I find it fulfilling. But a long day at work drains you. And then you come home to your child and still want to give them your all as a mother. 

If you ever get the feeling that your quality time with your kiddo is being sucked away by the time you spend making dinner, doing laundry, and running the bathtub, join the club.

And then stop worrying about it. There are plenty of ways to be a working mom and still stay connected with your child, even after a long day at work. Sometimes you just need to think a little out of the box:

1. Family game night. Why do I feel like people used to do this all the time but no one does it anymore? Maybe it's more that people don't talk about it? Anyway! We started playing board games with our daughter during a power outage one night, and I realized just how much fun it was for all of us -- one of the rare things everyone in the house enjoyed doing.

2. Plant something. Something as simple as growing a tomato plant together is not only educational, but gives you something to do together, from the actual planting to watering to weeding ... it's like the gift that keeps on giving.

3. Play dinnertime games. You're already eating dinner anyway, so kill two birds with one stone -- try some mealtime games to spice up the conversation and get the kids giggling ... and talking about their day.

4. Feed the birds. Set up a birdfeeder outside your window, and check it daily with your kids. This is an other educational idea, but it also gives you something to talk about, especially with kids who are hard to draw out after a long day of pre-school!

5. Start a community service project. Teach your kids about giving back while you do something for the good of others too. It could be something simple that you can do in one night, such as visiting the local animal shelter on your drive home to drop off a bag of dog food, or you can plan something ongoing that you can do in dribs and drabs when you have time, such as clearing out their toybox to donate gently used items to the local domestic violence shelter.

6. Color. Not exactly creative? Yeah, well when was the last time YOU sat down and colored in a coloring box instead of letting them do it all? It's actually very therapeutic, and if you're side-by-side, coloring in your own little books, you have a captive audience to talk to them about their day.

7. Play car games. Do you pick the kids up and drive while staring straight ahead, just willing the traffic to disappear from in front of you so you can get home? Do you try asking them about their day and find it's like pulling teeth? Try playing the same car games you'd play on longer road trips -- it will get them laughing, and hopefully talking. If nothing else, they'll make the car rides memorable in the years to come.

8. Scrapbook together. You know all those photos you have always meant to put in albums? Ask the kids to HELP you with it. Albums complete AND kid bonded with.

9. Watching funny videos online. Laughter is the best medicine, right? So pull the kid on your lap, pull out your laptop, and get giggling. Even if it's just for 15 minutes.

10. Teach them to cook. Don't let them being underfoot while you make dinner annoy the pants off of you. Put them to work! I realized recently how much fun my kid really is when she's got an apron on!

What do you do after a long day at work to stay connected with your kids?




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by on Sep. 24, 2013 at 3:10 PM
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DNewman
by on Sep. 27, 2013 at 10:20 AM

Text! My girls are older, on their own, so we text all the time. But we do like to plan a nice weekend visit with dinner!

EmptyNestMama
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Hi! Ya!
Yesterday at 6:53 PM
by on Sep. 27, 2013 at 11:15 AM

Hang out, chat, walk the dogs.

johnny4ever
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Beautiful day!
Yesterday at 8:35 AM
by on Oct. 1, 2013 at 7:55 AM

I am a sahm for now..but looking!

lalasmama2007
by Ticia on Oct. 1, 2013 at 8:41 AM

I'm a SAHM, so I get to spend plenty of time with my dd.

jessicasmom1
by Bronze Member on Oct. 1, 2013 at 8:43 AM

homework, dinner and time together

goddess99
by on Oct. 1, 2013 at 9:02 AM

I'm a sahm but my dd is gone all day at school so when she gets home we talk about her day.

matt_sara_mom
by on Oct. 1, 2013 at 10:07 AM

Same here.

Quoting lalasmama2007:

I'm a SAHM, so I get to spend plenty of time with my dd.


jen113000
by on Oct. 1, 2013 at 11:25 AM
I work at night so I spend after school with them. And weekends of course we plan fun things together.
Madelaine
by Bronze Member on Oct. 1, 2013 at 11:29 AM

Texting

Madelaine
by Bronze Member on Oct. 1, 2013 at 11:29 AM

Having dinner together.

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