22 month old cute little devil - bullying others!
Ok. So I have a beautiful 22 month old girl named Arabella. This child is extremely smart, she's really strong, and very coordinated for her age. People are amazed by how well she can speak.....combining up to three and four words quite often and using these short phrases in correct context! She's also very loving, active, creative, and loves music/singing!
However.......she's extremely aggressive and often a bully to children her age and younger! She knows what 'No' means, she knows what it means to hurt someone, she knows what owey means, and so on. Regardless, she seriously is mean to children sometimes.
Example: We went to a really nice park in town yesterday and there were kids of all ages. The first little girl she came upon I recognized from the Y. She walked up to her and grabbed her face with both hands - hard - while scrathing at the same time. Of course, i got her and softly, with a concerned voice, said No. Be nice! A little while later she must've done something rough to a little boy, but I didn't see any part of it, and no one said anything. A little while later she did something like this to a different little girl but I just cought the end. A few minutes later she went up to that same girl. I was on my way over as I saw Arabella headed towards that girl, as I knew she was at it again. I was a few seconds late. She gave this other little girl a two handed shove, then grabbed this girls hair and yanked hard but wouldn't let go right away. I swooped in and grabbed Arabella and, obviously more firm, scolded her with the no, be nice, you can't give oweys! This time I took her away and made her sit with me for about 10 minutes. I usually flick her had when she uses her hands to hurt others but now I'm wondering if that's a good idea as it seems to not phase her.
I wonder if it might be reinforcing the bad behavior.... ?!?!
This was all an example, but this is how it is every time she is with smaller childrem - her age and younger. She's usually sneaky about it to as she'll say "Hug", and go in for a hug but then pinch, hit, pull hair, or scratch! I'm at my wits end with this because she's still quite young for most discipline, and I feel like the other parents are looking at me like I'm not doing my job! In fact, the dad of the little girl at the park said "she's mean"! I couldn't say anything much in return as......he is right! I simply said I'm sorry!
Is there any moms on here who can give me some advice......reassure me that this is a phase.....something?
My now 6 year old was never this bad!!!