Public TERROR TANTUMS

[Jersey_class]

so having 2 years old boy I've dealt with some imbaressing things, but NONE as imbaressing as what happened today.

 

I was in walmart buying Alex [my husband to be] a father's day gift. Mason [my MONSTER CHILD lol] had THE worst tantrum ever!

I want to know how do you ladies handle it.

[dezandry]

Tantrums, or rather meltdowns happen frequently with my son, it can happen if he doesn't want to do what he is told or if he gets overwhelmed in a crowd or certain area or if he's tired. It really depends on where I am when the meltdown happens. He will throw himself and the floor and start crying and won't want to walk with me in the direction I am going or hold my hand. I sometimes have to just sit there with him until he calms down, I do tell him he has a choice to walk with me or to be picked up...but even that one I am going to end cuz he is only getting bigger. I don't believe in those leashes and he's too big to be in a stroller, he's 3. I also tell him what we are doing, and also what we are going to do when we get home that he has to look forward too.

When he wasn't in school I would take him everywhere, grocery stores, target, anywhere and everywhere, and yes he did have tantrums. I only went to one store at a time and only when I had to. I did always bring a snack and a drink, that was a must, and sometimes a book or something to keep him occupied. In target I would grab a toy off the shelves and that helped him temporarily...i say temporarily cuz I usually didn't buy it and taking it away would have him in a fit again, but sometimes I'd reward him with something small or get his attention on something else. shopping was always on his time, and it was like fighting the clock. And even the front of the cart he knows how to get out of and hates being in so its about keeping him occupied and just hoping I shop fast enough.

My son is autistic, and sometimes when others look at me I want to scream that he's autistic what is their fucking problem..but that is none of their business they have no idea. So i try to ignore it and deal with my son who I know is having just as much problems as I am, but yes sometimes I feel like screaming or having a meltdown myself.  I even remember having a tantrum as a kid to get what I wanted in toys r us, i think i was like 6 or so, and yeah my mom gave in cuz I was with my sisters as well...

Goodluck to you and this is just part of being a mom, even though it is embarrassing i know. Others will judge you and look at you like you are the worst parent in the world, but they don't have any idea how your life is and they need to mind their own business...

Goodluck to you

[shandys_mom]

we're not too sure but my daughter has bad tnatrums as well, she can be soo intellegent but dosent comprehend certian concepts like not at this second, wait a moment, those kinds of words....the worst feeling i had though was when she was sick and hacked up a HUGEEE GREEN PILE OF SNOT ON THE STORE FLOOR.....i mean it was about 6 oz. i went to get her a drink and had NOBODY that could watch her, the clerk kept ramlbing and i didnt understand why she was fidgeting and then it all came out....i was happy that it came out i forget what i gave her but man it was a godsend she was much better but i felt bad for whoever cleaned it, they told me not too worry and get her home....she was giggling all the way out the door, people stared at me like i was a bad mom for letting her out sick!

[amomynous_j]

none of the above. i tell her to stop, or we're leaving. if she doesn't stop, we leave.