Is your child(ren)'s father or are your children's fathers on the list of emergency contacts for school? I didn't know what the law was here in NY so I put him on the list, but he's at the bottom. I've got myself, my mom, 2 aunts and my ex-husband on the list in that order to pick up my STB 6 year old daughter. We may be moving when she finishes 1st grade so I don't know if I'd have to put him on the list if I move to IN and he's still in NY. He'd never come and see her if I moved out of state and I'd love it. He's a dbag father anyway and only visits when it's convient for him though he has visitations on Wednesday and every other weekend.