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A 4-Year-Old Is Too Young to Email (from the Stir)

Posted by on Jul. 8, 2011 at 9:13 AM
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A 4-Year-Old Is Too Young to Email

Posted by Sasha Brown-Worsham
on June 28, 2011 at 11:52 AM

As we get further and further addicted to technology, our children are often coming along for the ride. I know very few 4-year-olds whose parents who have an iPhone who cannot already use their tiny fingers to manipulate and navigate the screen. My daughter has been using my iPhone adeptly since she was 2 and now her almost 3-year-old brother is doing the same.

My daughter also plays computer games and is able to type, and I am supportive of most of these things, but when it comes to email, I have to draw the line. Recently Miss Manners was asked about a 4-year-old who was learning to read and write and who had an email account. What seemed like a benign question about manners and not wanting to receive email from a 4-year-old was actually a bit more complicated.

Should a 4-year-old have an email address at all?

In a word: No. A 4-year-old should be reading and playing and practicing writing their letters by hand. I wrote a check the other day and felt that I had nearly forgotten how to use a pen because I spend so much time on the computer. It's imperative that children still get these skills, so why the rush to typing?

Personally, I am thrilled by my daughter learning to write and less thrilled by her learning to type. It seems like she needs both. So, yes, a 4-year-old is too young to be emailing.

I could see having a highly monitored email account for her when she is 6 or 7. Maybe. But at 4, she is still learning the basics. She will likely spend the great majority of her life in front of a computer (unless she has some other kind of job), so I am in no hurry to shove her in front of one any time soon.

Once she has the basics of reading and writing down and has people she wants to email, maybe even a friend or two who has one of their own, we can revisit it. Until then, if you want to talk to my daughter, call me or email me. I will make sure she sees it!

Do you think a 4-year-old is too young to email?

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LuLu5J
by Lourdes-PR on Jul. 8, 2011 at 9:20 AM

I think that 4 years old is definitely too young to have an email.  I have a love/hate relationship with technology, lol.  I love technology, I love all the things it can do both practically and to have fun.  What I hate is that it has taken our lives and our kids lives to a point where some kids can barely even write.  At the same time it's at the parents discretion to not let it take over to that point.

I think that technology should be introduced to children gradually and age-appropriateness should be taken into account.

kgmmw
by Kimberly-US/Mex on Jul. 8, 2011 at 10:58 AM

oh wow, no way in hell would any of my kids have an email until they get older. 

sophiesmom07
by on Jul. 8, 2011 at 11:10 AM

Four is too young. What's the point? I was exchanging letters with friends when I was around 7.  I see no reason why kids can't just write letters, they have plenty of time for emails and gadgets.  

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